Plausible Deniability or Covering for Justin?Some good discussion has been taking place in the comments lately so I wanted to elaborate on it. I did a post covering some of this some time back (http://justiceforayla.blogspot.com/2012/03/phoebe-matriarch-of-dipietro-family.html) but not all of you have read it and more information has been learned since then.To start off I am only discussing possible reasons and scenarios that could have taken place and am in no way saying that my insight or thoughts are what happened or that anyone discussed in this post are guilty or innocent.In a comment yesterday I said I could understand if Phoebe was aware of what really happened to Ayla and that I could also understand covering for Justin even if he was guilty. I based that off what lengths I would go to protect my child and what I would say or do to keep them out of trouble or harms way. My children are relatively young and at this point I can't think of anything they could do that I wouldn't protect them. I would hope my children would make the right choices if they ever faced any kind of serious trouble and would not put me in that situation to begin with. If my children were older and were adults and there was no excuse that they did not know the difference between right and wrong, I still don't think I could be the one to make the phone call to turn them in. I would however urge them to do the right thing and would support and still love them every step of the way and most likely pay for their attorney. My love for my children is unconditional and that includes if they ever did something horrific and harmed another person even a child.I would like to think I grew up in a family where my parents held us accountable for the decisions we made and the actions we took. There was structure and rules and discipline but I never doubted my parents loved me even when they had to at times show me tough love. One thing my parents instilled in my brother and I was respect. Respect of others and of their property and respect for ourselves. Of course, we were hellions at times and I can remember my mother telling me she couldn't wait for me to have children of my own so they could do to me like I did to her. I always laughed at her and retorted that my children wouldn't do that to me because I was going to be a better parent than she was and allow my child to do whatever it was that I was trying to get away with at the time. Once I had children of my own, I would NEVER forget the curse my mother bestowed upon me. It had to be a curse and my mother must be a witch of some kind because my children have done tenfold what I ever did to my mother.For the longest time I thought I was a failure as a parent, especially to my older son because he has given me the most trouble but after talking to other parents, teachers, counselors, therapists, etc... It isn't just my child that has the lack of respect and in observing interactions between other children and their parents it is easy to see that kids today are not as respectful as the generations before them. They feel like they are owed something and that parents are there only to wait on them hand and foot and fulfill their wants and needs without them having to give anything in return. They have no fear of punishment or of authority and no respect for authority, parents, or property. This has been getting worse as the generations go on. I have heard it blamed on many things but mostly video games, television and media, single parents who work and aren't there to supervise their children, schools being understaffed and teachers no longer caring about what they teach their students and the list goes on. I am sure many factors come into play and every situation is different. Not all teens and children act this way but a lot do. How does this factor into Ayla's case?From the beginning my theory and thoughts on what happened to Ayla hasn't ever really changed despite what others may say. The only thing that did change was me being careful not to publicly accuse or attack people I believe are guilty and also not to attack others just because they are associated with people who I may feel are guilty. I still think that whatever happened to Ayla was an accident and that accident was covered up. I know many think it wasn't an accident and that something more sinister came into play because if it truly was an accident why not just call police to report it? Most people trust that if they tell the truth and are honest, good things will happen. Most people also believe that the police are there to help and that police officers aren't bad people. Not all think that way though.From early reports and comments from people who claim to know Phoebe and the family personally they say that Phoebe who has reportedly always been a single mother was also an absent mother. Some claim she partied a lot and frequented bars and that the three kids were left to fend for themselves most of the time. Phoebe's sister Selena said on another blog that Phoebe worked her butt off and put herself through school while raising three kids on her own despite which claim is true it stands to reason that the kids probably were home alone a lot and didn't get much supervision. Lance is the oldest and probably was left in charge of Justin and Elisha a lot of the time. I know from my own experience that not being able to spend a lot of time with your children can lead to you as a parent feeling guilty and then overcompensating for that lack of interaction with something else. For me, I spoiled my son with gifts to make up for the time I couldn't spend with him. If Phoebe was a single parent without a lot of money and three kids to raise she likely felt guilty about not being there as much as she wanted to be or needed to be and possibly about not having enough money for vacations or expensive clothes and shoes kids want so overcompensated in ways she was able to. Since two of her three adult children were living at home at the time of Ayla's disappearance and living their with children of their own it leads me to believe that they had a relatively close relationship as a family. Based on reports from people who had children that went to school with Justin and Lance, they say Justin and Lance were bullies and often got into trouble and Phoebe always came to their defense and blamed others for their actions. Maybe that was how Phoebe made up for not being there as much as she needed to be?Maybe their acting out was a way to get her attention when she was otherwise busy?It goes to reason that if someone is always bailing you out of the trouble you are in you are never going to learn how to take responsibility for your actions. Pretty soon consequences that others face for their actions don't seem to apply to you and therefore you develop a sense of self importance. That you for some reason are better or more special than the others doing the same thing because you don't get in trouble for it. The police and any other form of authority albeit teachers, principals, other parents are "the bad guy". They are lying and trying to frame you. So and so set you up. There always has to be a fall guy for your bad choices because you certainly aren't to blame. That thinking keeps getting reinforced every time you are let off the hook for something you did until it becomes second nature.If an accident happened and Ayla was fatally injured I don't believe anyone in that house except for maybe Courtney would even think to call police. I think the first instinct would have been self preservation and to cover up the tracks of what happened. If Phoebe knew what happened she likely went into her usual mode of defending her children which also had become second nature to her or she wasn't there, didn't know what happened and chose to have plausible deniability so she could protect her child but honestly not know exactly what happened even if she suspected what really happened. I tend to think that the rush clean up job and the evidence that was left behind as well as not taking more time to stage a plausible break in/abduction scenario was because Courtney or Aiden were waking up and really didn't know what had transpired in the night and as soon as she noticed Ayla missing police needed to be called immediately and the show had to start whether they were ready or not. If Courtney still honestly believes Ayla was abducted she too either has decided to go the plausible deniability route or they are really good, seasoned actors.I think that if Phoebe does know what happened she decided that the bond she had with Justin was more solid than any bond formed with Ayla and therefore Ayla was not worth protecting even in death over Justin. Phoebe barely knew Ayla as she had only lived with her a little over a month. Was that enough time to form a bond? Did she even try to love her? Most people would instantly love a child especially one that shared their blood but did Phoebe see her as a nuisance and the reason her adult son had to move back home when she was already housing her adult daughter and granddaughter?One thing I am sure of is that if it were Gabby that went missing we wouldn't be here two years later waiting for answers. This case would have been solved and someone would have confessed. I think Phoebe did have a bond with Gabby, she had to have formed a bond with her since she had lived with her since birth and she had spent more time with her. I think the problem in this case is that no one had formed a bond with Ayla and for a young father without a stable job or stable home of their own Ayla was a burden. I think Justin loved Ayla and I think he tried to do the right thing but I think it was more than he bargained for. I do not think what happened to Ayla was intentional. I think she likely fell down the stairs or ingested something and by the time anyone really paid attention to what was going on it was too late. I feel like when it came down to it, each person in the house and involved decided that their future and freedom and their inability to take the consequences for their actions outweighed doing the right thing for Ayla and for anyone else in Ayla's family to get closure or answers. Had Phoebe formed a strong bond with Ayla I think things would have turned out differently but sadly that didn't happen and it is too late now.