Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Assumptions, Theories and New Beginnings By KJ
I think that it is wonderful that Tori has reopened www.justiceforayla.blogspot.com and that comments are being made by people on all sides of the fence in the Ayla Reynolds case. Truly the efforts made by everyone, while great, can be even better by coming together and sharing all theories and thoughts.
Perhaps comments will be better received if people remember that everyone operates with some degree of assumptions. For the record, I do not assume that people are working on assumptions, because I know that people are working on assumptions.
Everyone makes assumptions every day. There are no exceptions. So how is it that I know everyone is working on assumptions? Here are a few samples. I'm sure you could come up with many of your own.
Trista can tell Jeff what she knows, feels and sees. Jeff can tell everyone via a blog post or comments on blogs what Trista has said to him. At this point, we work from assumptions. When we believe what Jeff says to us, we assume that Trista is telling the truth. We also make the assumption that Jeff has not changed what Trista said, saying something totally different. Again, we have to assume because we did not witness the event that Trista talked about firsthand, neither did we witness her telling Jeff. And if we did witness what Trista said to Jeff, we would still be making an assumption as to whether Trista was truthful or not truthful. If we don't believe what Jeff had to say, or what Trista had to say we are, again making an assumption as to whether either was honest.
Justin can tell Heidi about the night in question or what he feels happened to Ayla, Heidi can tell other people via messages and comments what Justin said. People believe what Justin has to say through Heidi. Those people are assuming that Justin is telling the truth and that Heidi is relaying what Justin said word for word and hasn't changed the information. You see how this works? These people who believe have made the assumption that Justin is truthful and that Heidi is relaying his words without changes. Those who do not believe what Justin said through Heidi have assumed he and/or Heidi are not being truthful. Assumptions again.
None of us know all the facts. We know some facts, but those are only what has been released by the authorities, because only they have the facts. The facts they have come from investigation and testing (proven methods to determine facts). The information we attain from either side of Ayla's family (Trista and/or Justin), is hearsay and thus requires a judgment on our part as to whether the information is reliable. We neither witnessed firsthand the events they are telling and neither did we hear them tell the source the information.
If we realize that whatever anyone believes or says starts out with some assumptions, it's easier to accept others opinions, as just that, their opinions. Since the beginning, there have been many wrong assumptions made by followers of this case about other followers of this case. Those assumptions and the subsequent remarks made based on those assumptions have caused more problems than anything else. Most of us, most likely have never followed a missing child case (I know I haven't) in quite the way we have been following this one. So for many people who comment, it could be their first time commenting or stating their opinions in a missing child case. Perhaps we make mistakes, perhaps we have wrong assumptions, but at least we share what we think and more often than not, accept others opinions as well.
There are very few facts to be had in this case. If we had a lot of facts, Ayla would most likely be found by now. But we don't, so we talk about the facts we have, the assumptions we make, the theories that come from those facts and assumptions. There is nothing wrong with making assumptions or coming to conclusions, as long as a person realizes that they could be wrong. It's nice that there is a blog where all sides can come together and state those opinions. I'm sure that we all still have our own strong opinions on what happened or what didn't happen, who knows and who doesn't know, who is truthful and who is not. That does not mean we are right, just that we have our own ideas.
I try to remember, that not everything I see is the whole story. It's a lot of puzzle pieces and everyone has a few of the pieces, some are out in the public, some are not. Picture it this way, there is an object in the center of the room, 20 people are standing in a circle looking at the same object. Because they are looking at it from different spots, all 20 see different things about the object. That's really what we have here. A lot of people, looking at the same case, from different perspectives and all seeing something different. I value everyone's opinion, thoughts and perspectives, because they are looking at it from a different viewpoint than I am. When a person starts to understand this concept, they start to value the thoughts of even those people with the extreme opposite view. They start to realize that everything said by anyone has some validity based on perspective. - KJ