Sunday, May 13, 2012

Mind + Heart = The Human Soul


I have to admit that one of the many atrocities I have witnessed is more troubling to me than most others. The claims by anonymous that the Reynolds are trying to have Ayla declared deceased, the claims that we are trying to “label” Justin a murderer, and the claims that everyone at Justice For Ayla have already condemned Ayla to being deceased.

All of these claims are based on the premise that we “know Ayla is dead”. I personally have difficulty with writing that four letter word at the end of the previous sentence. I had a poster the other week that even asked me to stop writing that Justin “disappeared” Ayla because the grammar was not correct, I politely declined. Because of the influx of evidence found in the Kennebec River, factual hypothesis, reasonable assumptions and posted obscenities, and the latest statements of parties involved , I have since had to transition to what I now prefer to say, “harmed” or “no longer with us”.




Even with the change in my terminology, there are still accusations of Trista, Jeff, The Reynolds Family, and so many other caring people who are only concerned with finding Answers and Justice for Ayla, that we all want “Ayla to be declared dead”. There is nothing further from the truth. Then I saw an anonymous poster ask Trista, “Why do you try so hard to declare Ayla is dead?” and “Why do you accuse Justin of murdering Ayla?” The latest instances of this type of questioning were on Answers for Ayla, and the blog I refuse to mention here. If you choose to read about that other blog, please go to Start The Lies.

I do not believe these comments are always meant in a negative way by any means. I have to believe people just want to see Ayla brought home safe and sound. I also believe there are people who truly, for whatever reason, believe Ayla was kidnapped. Maybe this is the only way they can believe Ayla is still with us? Maybe they are just blind to the blood evidence? And for the record, I too want Ayla brought home, safe and sound. She deserves to be loved and cherished, to play with her little brother and loving mommy! I would do anything to be proven wrong and see Ayla laughing and smiling while being hugged by Trista. I have to believe in my heart that MOST people that question “why do you want Ayla to be dead” simply want Ayla safe and sound but can’t express how to say it.

With that said, I am writing this to address individuals that truly believe anyone wants to declare Ayla is no longer with us. There is a poet named Midnight Storms that is very close to my position on this, and hopefully many other’s as well.







Think With Your Mind Not Your Heart

People say think with your heart 
I say think with your mind 
If not you might become blind 
The mind questions, it reasons, it understands
Knowing it can't give in to all the heart demands
Your mind is something you don't want to lose
Because if so, anyone your heart can easily misuse 
Leading your heart, your mind and body astray
Allowing you to be anyone's prey 
The heart is beautiful unique in its design 
But your mind helps it to be refined 
Thinking with your heart where your emotions lies 
Will cause you, anyone's wish and desires to comply 
Think with your mind, be firm be smart 
You can avoid the pain the bleeding of your heart
Your heart and mind can work together
They can learn, with each other to tough out the weather 

But never let your heart lead the way 
Because you, it might just betray 
Think with your mind not with your heart
For the emotional withdrawal might tear you apart 

People say think with your heart, but I say that's wrong 
Because even in pain the heart will lead you along  

The mind must “be firm and smart”, so when the facts present themselves do not avoid them. If avoided, the unfolding facts will clearly cause pain through the “bleeding of the heart”. The hopes and desires of the heart can’t be ignored either. By ignoring the heart, the soul and compassion of mankind is lost. The “heart and mind CAN work together”! By evaluating the facts independently, you are able to “know”. By keeping the Hope and Desire in your heart, for Ayla to be safely returned, you have a soul. The mind and heart “can learn, with each other to tough out the weather”. The only way a person with compassion can find their way through such a tragedy is to:

     1.  Research, understand, and acknowledge the facts. If you do not know how to interpret the facts, ask someone to have a logical back and forth until you are able to understand.

       2.  Keep Hope and Faith in your heart. Know the facts, but hope you are wrong until Ayla is found!


I want to believe that human nature is simply blinding some of these people to the circumstances because it is human nature to believe with your heart that a parent could not hurt their own child. Others will simply ignore their minds interpretation of the facts and make comments simply to invoke a reaction. And then there are those that are blind and ignoring the facts.

I believe it is possible to think with your mind and still feel with your heart. I try to understand and believe in the facts while maintaining the hope that I am interpreting the facts incorrectly. Hopefully, there are more than just a few though, that can think with both your minds and hearts?

With that, I will continue to Hope and Pray within my heart for Ayla to be brought home safe and sound. That Trista will have her baby girl to hold, hug and love for a lifetime. That little Raymond will have his sister to play with for as long as it takes for him to start thinking girls are “yucky”! That is what fills my heart daily and consistently.

My mind however, still needs answers to the facts and summations concerning the cupful of blood spilled, no medical treatment, the polygraph tests, and when was Ayla last seen by someone outside the paternal family.

I chose to think and feel with both my mind and heart, respectively. What I ask of the three people in the house with their accusations and the people instilling this pain with these unneeded questions of the grieving family members is “Think with your mind, but FEEL with your heart!”




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85 comments:

  1. Where did they ever get the idea Trista wants her daughter to be declared dead? All I have ever heard from her is hope that Ayla will be returned to her,Mothers Day must be so hard for her,We are here for you Trista.We wont give up on Ayla. She is in our hearts forever.

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  2. I don't want Ayla to be deceased, I don't want her to be harmed. I don't wish her gone. This isn't my choice. I was given no choice. Trista was given no choice.

    I want her found, I want her home, I want her to hug her Mommy and never, ever ever let go.

    There is someone who knows. Out there is a person who holds the answer to all our questions. That person has choices, that person can change everything at this very moment.

    Think with your mind, but feel with your heart. If you love Ayla, use your heart and tell.

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    1. Thank You Feeling Heart! I am so glad my words were understood. I can tell from your words, the feelings of your heart are Eternal Hope!

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    2. Feeling Heart, I'm afraid the ones who know and could tell where Ayla is have no hearts.

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    3. Great response, Feeling Heart. I'm right there with you on that thought.

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  3. Thank you for writing this, John. I, too, believe that most who are making these kinds of accusations are honestly only trying to hold on to hope. That is an admirable sentiment, but it's a whole different thing to say that those who are basing their opinions on the words and actions of LE somehow want Ayla to be deceased. Anyone who suspects the DiPietros of harming Ayla would be joyous to be proven wrong. If what I suspect happened turns out to be true, I won't feel vindicated, triumphant or celebratory in the least. I would feel heartbroken and sad for everyone who cares about Ayla. I would also like to see justice served.

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    1. So true Eve, and that is why I asked what I asked at the end. If the mind is honest to oneself, one can prepare for the future. It will in no way make the future easier and my heart will cry many many tears, but preparation could prevent total breaking of the heart. Trista unfortunately does not have the luxary of allowing a total break of the heart. Not with Lil Ray needing and loving her so much!

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  4. People are Just plain crazy! ITA John P! People need to start thinking and talking!!! Ofcourse none of us want Ayla to be the big D. Ignoring the facts in this case though is to me the only way someone could hold hope for Ayla, all the evidence released points to her demise unfortunatly. But we can stay positive and Pray everyday that she may be alive.she may never be able to live her life but She will have Justice in the end!

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    1. I pray every night for Ayla to be watched over through the darkness of night and I pray each morning that the daylight will make Ayla visible to the world.

      The evidence leads to the opposite of what the heart feels, but Hope is Endless! Ayla will come home and Justice will prevail.

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    2. The big D? Seriously?

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    3. Unfortunately, none of us can ignore the facts that we have been presented with. However, all of us can remain hopeful and pray for a miracle. The facts will never change but the end result of those facts is still not known.....not really, not yet. We have speculated, theorized and discussed the few facts that we have until we've damned near driven ourselves insane! All of our speculation, theorizing and discussion have, at times, made us so angry....at the Dipietros and at each other but still, we have all returned to the hope that Ayla will be brought home, safe and sound, returned to the hope that we will all see the day when Ayla is in her mother's arms again. I believe that we return to that hope because it is so painful to think that a parent could harm their own child, we have no other choice BUT to keep hoping and praying that our deepest wish will come true. I, for one, will not give up hoping, I will not give up praying, and I will not stop believing that we will receive a miracle.....not until I have no other choice.

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    4. Thank You Kathie, for thinking with your mind and feeling with your heart. Ayla hears your prayers and all the thousands of prayers that are said on her behalf daily!

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  5. They keep saying that in post after post. It's called deflecting guilt

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    1. So true. "If I can make you feel worse than I feel, I won't feel so bad."

      Sad.

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  6. Nice post

    Ayla will always be with her mommy, no matter what.

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    1. Anon, Thank you for your comment. I too believe Ayla will always be in Tristas heart, she will be in all of our hearts. But two answers from whoever knows could give the Reynolds Family peace of Mind. The heart and mind are one within each person. For Trista to feel Aylas love in her heart without knowing, this prevents Trista from being whole within. JMO

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  7. what's important?May 13, 2012 at 7:48 PM

    Well-written blog, John... very nicely said.

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    1. Thank you WI! It was difficult knowing this was the first time I actually used the four letter word I had not prevously used. It was a stark realization that Ayla may no longer be with us physically, but she will be with us eternally spiritully and mentally! If following the evidence, Justice for Ayla must now prevail. If following the heart, Never Give Up Hope! If thinking with your mind and feeling with your heart, like I try to do, Hope and Pray the evidence and we are all wrong and Ayla is brought home safe and sound.

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    2. what's important?May 13, 2012 at 8:39 PM

      My initial *sense* when I heard she was missing was that she had passed on. I continued to think/feel that way, although more than half the people I talked to about it felt differently. It proved difficult to only think that way, and I felt (for me) not reasonable to not allow for other possibilities. So, I say I don't *know* - which is true. I think *Ayla is somewhere* - which is also true, and that Ayla is LOVE, SHE is NOT what happened to her. Ayla reminds me every day to honor my blessings.

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    3. That is what makes us individuals WI. Each mind and each heart makes us all like snowflakes, no two are the same. The feelings of the heart are influenced by the mind but neither can be ignored. If I may "Ayla is love" is so fitting when speaking of feelings of the heart!!!

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    4. Very touching and heartfelt WI. Thank you for sharing!

      Ayla IS somewhere. Trista and her baby girl WILL be reunited. They will have an eternity together! So much more than this short time on earth, they will have forever.

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    5. what's important?May 13, 2012 at 9:32 PM

      Indeed, no two are the same, but they are of the same origin. I was talking with a counselor once about how a dear friend of mine had handled a situation and how that had scared me. He said "might have scared YOU, probably didn't scare HIM... there's all kinds of people in the world, whose strengths are different... here's another example, if you ever signed up for the military you would not have been sent to take out Bin Laden, they would have assigned you stateside to tend the hearts of the broken and wounded when they returned." Point: everyone is different, and the world requires that to work.

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    6. what's important?May 13, 2012 at 9:37 PM

      Thank you, Kit. It's more than Ayla being in everyone's hearts. As you said, she *IS* and *WILL BE* always.

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  8. Great post John P! I too, am sick of hearing people make such comments. They think Trista, her family and anyone else, who apparently is not falling for Justin & Co.'s lies and deceit, must wish for Ayla to be declared dead. I can't stand typing that word, saying it, or thinking it, when thinking of or referring to Ayla. I try to avoid that word as much as possible. It is heartbreaking! It just seems wrong to type, say or even think such a thing. I wonder why it is so hard. I guess because Ayla is a beautiful, innocent, precious baby. I guess as heartbreaking as it is, I also feel almost disrespectful to speak of Ayla in that way, towards Ayla and Trista.

    As WRONG as it feels to refer to Ayla in this way, the FACTS can not be overlooked, ignored or denied. I guess if we lived in a fairy tale world, we would never have to think such things, but that is not the case. In order for Answers to be found for Ayla, we can not ignore those facts. In order for Justice to be served for Ayla, we can not ignore those facts. If we DO ignore them, I think we would actually be doing a disservice to Ayla. To NOT want Answers and Justice for Ayla, is WRONG. We can not blindly close our eyes and mind to the facts, no matter how wrong and heartbreaking it causes our hearts to feel.

    Thank you for this post John! That has been bothering me for quite a while. I can't believe these people claiming that a Mother would want her baby declared dead, EVER! NO parent wants that, wants to deal with that or have to admit that their BABY may be gone and never coming home. The REAL sad thing is, those people, making such claims, I do not think they themselves even believe it, which makes it THAT much worse! Blaming an innocent Mother, and on top, adding this claim, JUST to deflect attention from the TRUTH, is just plain cruel. Cruel, horrible, wrong and low. Just about as low as one can go.

    The truth is, LE is searching for something. They may have been searching (also) for evidence, during their very first searches, in the FREEZING COLD waters, but I'm willing to bet, they were risking their lives for a lot more than evidence.

    I wish and hope and pray every single day and night for Ayla to be brought home to her Mother, where she belongs! That does not mean that I can logically ignore the facts. Wishing, hoping and praying, to me, is not the same as using my logical mind. It is possible to use, both, the heart and mind, as difficult and heartbreaking as it may be.

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    1. Thank You Kit,

      your words are very touching. It is truely heartbreaking to think with the logic of the mind while feeling what your heart wants to ignor. The biggest difference is being able to acknowledge both.

      Those that accuse, most often after being asked to explain the blood or LE statements of no kidnapping, will continue to do so to deflect the truth. What they fail to realize is the pain of the heart they cause with thier words!

      My hope is that those that are not deflecting but trying not to acknowledge the facts, continue to think with your mind but please feel with your heart before accusing.

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    2. I meant to add, that I always LOVE seeing such beautiful pictures of Ayla. I love seeing some of the pictures, that are not frequently used. She always looks so happy, loved, and just so content with her Mommy. I can also see a loving and proud Mother, in Trista, in all of the pictures with Ayla. It really hurts my heart to think anyone could possibly harm that beautiful, happy baby. It also hurts my heart to see such a close bond between Ayla and Trista, ONLY because Ayla was taken, ripped away from her Mommy, who she clearly was SO happy to be with, and Trista SO happy to be with her. It ALSO brings such joy and relief, to know that Ayla was truly loved, cherished and adored. It's clear that Trista was and is aware of how special Ayla is. They so obviously enjoy their time together. I see a great, strong, unbreakable, mutual love and bond.

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    3. Thanks for the pictures should go to Tori!!
      Her selections for this story were phenominal.

      Your comments concerning the pictures are so exact. The love and sparkle shown by both Ayla and Trista while in each others arms is something that can never be broken.

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    4. Great post, Kit. That is exactly how I feel about it. Of course nobody wishes that Ayla is deceased. And we can all hold out hope in our hearts for a miracle. I will happily admit I was wrong if it means that Ayla is safe and able to be reunited with Trista and the people that love her. That would be joyful day! But, we can't ignore the facts. That can be dangerous. If Ayla is deceased, and the facts seem to support that, then there is somebody that is walking among us that is capable of something heinous. Ayla deserves justice and Trista and her family deserve closure.

      It reminds me of the Susan Powell case. Josh and his dad tried to convince the public that Susan was not dead, that she had just run off. Anybody who could look at their hinky story logically knew that that was unlikely. And in the end it was fatal for the Powell boys. That whole situation was so tragic and also unnecessary. LE, and anybody looking at the reality of that situation knew that Josh Powell was dangerous.

      I fear the same here. There were two other people in that house the night of the 16th, Gabby and Aiden. I wonder if they know anything. Since I think whatever happened to Ayla happened before the 16th, I think it's more likely that Gabby might have seen something. What happens when she gets a little older and starts talking? We owe it to her and everyone else involved to look at the REALITY of the situation. To simply ignore the facts and to say it's horrible to think Ayla is deceased is really burying your head in the sand. We owe it to those children to look at the big picture, to assess the facts, and come to some conclusions about the situation, so that their safety can be secured, so justice can be served and so people can have closure.

      Nobody wishes for these kinds of things to happen, but we have to be able to look at them realistically so as to be able to deal with these tragedies and hopefully prevent them in the future.

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    5. ITA Anon. I'm not going to bury my head in the sand, just because I HOPE that Ayla will be returned to her Mother safely.

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  9. "Because of the influx of evidence found in the Kennebec River, factual hypothesis, reasonable assumptions and posted obscenities, and the latest statements of parties involved , I have since had to transition to what I now prefer to say, “harmed” or “no longer with us”."

    John P, what evidence was found in the Kennebec? The link you posted says right out that it's not been determined to relate to Ayla. Some items were found, nothing more.

    The rest of your links go back to posts on the same blog you are posting on. Where do you get your original ideas?

    This post is just a placeholder, IMO.

    Personally I think Justin and/or other people in the house that night somehow were responsible for Ayla's demise and/or cover-up. I am not going to wind myself up silly trying to do the MSP's job though. They'll get it eventually, through forensic evidence and witness testimony. My musings aren't likely to help.

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    1. Why'd u bother taking the time to write that long ass boring post then?

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    2. Based on the entirity of my statement "the evidence found in the Kennebec River, factual hypothesis, reasonable assumptions". You question is answered by my reasonable assumption and factual hypothesis. The "evidence" of almost 3 weeks ago has been undergoing testing. Do you believe the testing would take this long, I do not reasonably believe that. Do you think LE would ask for the sleuceway to be drained months before the scheduled time if the "evidence" did not lead them to do so, I do not reasonably believe that. Do you believe the MSP would have divers and homocide detectives on site while doing so if they did not expect to find more related "evidence", I do not reasonably believe that. I would go on but I have already explained why I made the statement and I stand behind the statement for these reasons. It is of course just my reasonable hypothesis, maybe your reasoning is different?

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    3. John, it was an excellent post and I told you before you ever started contributing that no matter what you post, you will always get those that do not disagree and those that are going to pick apart everything you say.

      I get one person who checks the "disagree" box at the bottom of each post EVERY time I write something no matter what it is I write.

      I thought this was your best post so far and I felt it was a fitting post for Mother's Day. :)

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    4. Thank you Tori! I felt that Mothers Day was the right time to ask for people to feel with thier hearts when posting hurtful words.

      There were two other posts earlier I wont respond to as they do not deserve responses. I wanted to respond here because this anon has obviously ignorred the heart within him/her. If they were to listen to the heart on Mothers day, they would understand there was a purpose for the story other than being a place holder. Unfortunately they read only part of the story and only with the mind and missed the intent of the post.

      I thank you for allowing me to post his story today. I hope it helps at least one person to feel with heart before adding to the pain of ALL that are grieving for Ayla!

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    5. One added note for anon, you say "The rest of your links go back to posts on the same blog you are posting on. Where do you get your original ideas?" Only 2 of the 6 links above are to previous posts on this blog. This is why I made a reasonable assumption that you did not read the entirity of the post.

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    6. I wonder where some other blog gets their "original" ideas? They seem to only write something in response to what is written here.

      I don't see what the problem is with the links anyway, one went to a hypothesis and the other went to KJ's guest post that was about people saying nasty things about Trista for smiling? I link to articles I've written in my posts all the time for reference. Talk about nit picking!

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  10. Thank you for this post John!
    Lately, many baby killers and their supporters have used the strategy of guilting/shaming good people into "only looking for an alive child".
    IMO, people using this strategy are only interested in their own agenda.
    No one should be shamed for using their God-given brains in seeking TRUTH.

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    1. Thank You Kimc. The guilt that you mention was one of the main reasons I wrote this. I felt that when guilt was used as deflection, it distracted from the real reason we all are here, to find Answers and Justice for Ayla!

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    2. ITA :)
      too bad the people that should be feeling guilt aren't.

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    3. It's just a twist on if you can't attack the message than attack the messenger.

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    4. *then (I need caffeine!)

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  11. Very well written post John!! I think that poem is an excellent life lesson for many. The problem is dip supporters are running out of real reasons to defend him..so they have to attack the ones that are truly suffering. It is sad to watch what they come up with to deflect guilt from Justin and company. I look to the the Le to provide truth. I see nothing but shame, lies, and guilt from the Dip supporters..i mean what else is there for them? Justin hides ,courtney hides, and Elisha is still stuck on the window being unlocked evidence... Honestly.. the dip supporters dont have much to work with..IMO

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    1. Thank you Robin,

      I too feel because the blood and the "no kidnapping" statement can not be logically explained, the accusation are deflections of guilt. The attempt is to guilt a person into ignoring the evidence and to feel only with the heart. This prevents the mind from asking for logical answers.

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  12. Maybe Maine LE is more competent than Nebraska LE. If the spirit moves you, read about this case.

    http://unforgottenangels.wordpress.com/2011/01/20/juliette-geurts-family-fights-for-justice-in-a-broken-system/

    The case is similar in that one or all of 3 people killed a baby. An autopsy and other data proved the child's cause of death was violence and abuse. Read the comments from the DA where he says he can't make arrests because he doesn't know which of the three people to arrest.

    There was no significant ties to the three. They weren’t related and now they have all gone their separate ways and live in different states. Yet, they all apparently lied for each other and none came forward to name the person responsible for killing the baby. It blows my mind, really.

    Before reading about this Nebraska case, I felt that it would be near impossible for the Dips and CR to all know what happened to Ayla and keep silent and give their support to whomever harmed or killed her. Now, I see that people do this. I can’t get inside their minds to understand how they operate and live with themselves. I don’t understand evil doing and thinking, because I don’t think that way.

    Another recent case I came across while sleuthing was a young father that killed his child by throwing it into a chair where it’s neck snapped and eventually caused the child’s death. This guy had a temper issue and was also on meds (isn’t that the case more often than not?).

    I do not think there will be an indictment of JD, ED, and CR. Even if they find a deceased Ayla in the river, it still won't be enough for an arrest. How many babies do we have missing now where the parents look like the suspect? All are going to cold cases.

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    1. Chicago, Not to be disrespectful but I hope you are wrong. It is a valid point with the references you cited, but I believe there is enough circumstantial evidence, that WHEN Ayla is found, all three will be charged and convicted if it is proven that Ayla met with violence. The jury can figure out who is guilty of what, or simply determine they all acted in concert!

      I have difficulty with any case where a CHILD is not found and returned home, not just this one. I do not like to ponder this thought, but if Ayla is not found I still feel there will be multiple charges brought against all in the house and those that lied to obstruct and hinder the investigation as well as what I personnaly consider abusive actions towards Ayla by multiple people in the house.. JMO though!

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    2. I hope you're right John. I do believe that if any of the items found in the river belong to Ayla or the Dips, then that clearly points to them in a very negative way. There is no 'logical' reason to find Ayla's things in the river except to associate them with her disappearance.

      I would think that there are oodles of things thrown in the river, some of which are baby things or even things with blood on them. People litter like crazy and the river is a big litter box for some. Therefore, I agree with those that think the items found and sent to the crime lab must be unique and presumed to be associated with the case. Jeff has been silent hasn't he? Perhaps he knows something bad?

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    3. Just an added not, in order to get from the Violette Ave house to the Tudela McMansion, one must travel over one of several waterways which drain into the sluecway. Add this to everything else and it is very compelling to believe the items found are related.

      Jeff & Trista have been very forthcoming IMO. When and if they hear news, I believe they will let the public know what they know, when they are told it will not interfere with the investigation but may help further it.

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    4. I hope they let us know, as soon as they can, as long as it doesn't interfere of course. I more so hope that Trista will start to get some answers for herself. I wonder if LE was able to show her the pictures yet, or give her confirmation, if testing of the items have been completed yet.

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    5. ITA Kit, Trista must have been in agony on Mothers Day if she doesn't know. I hope that Lil Ray was able to put a smile on her face if only for a little while! :(

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    6. I agree John. I hope she was able to enjoy some of her Mothers Day. :(

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  13. John P! You provided a thought-provoking article. Thank you for taking the time to write it and share with all of us. Sadly, some people refuse to understand basic logic, thereby scrambling to find their "blinders" and/or sticking their heads in the sand.

    As an unrelated example, many believed the world was flat, despite proof and evidence contradicting their beliefs. Those people held tight to their thoughts, beliefs, and theories. As pertaining to the Dip family and friends, I can imagine several refuse to remove their blinders which makes it easier for them to stand their ground on their belief of Justin's innocence. Possibly they "just can't imagine" any or all involved being capable of such a heinous crime. We've all experienced this familiar style of denial at some point in our lives. Yet, in my mind and heart I ask myself, "How can you not have even a hint of doubt, considering the facts that have come to light over the 5 month time frame"? Could it be that someone is more afraid to admit they believe his (their) story but have a few lingering questions about specific events, but refuse to speak out in the open (calling him/them out) because of their own insecurities?

    As far as having a heart, or even feeling with their hearts, I'm certain they've purposefully turned a blind eye, perhaps because they know the reality is too hard to face. This type of thinking reminds me of the animal statues - three in a set: 1 with it's eyes covered, 1 with it's ears covered, and 1 with it's mouth covered.

    Some people refuse to allow their heart to invade their thoughts. It's far to dangerous. This occurs mostly with people who've been hurt and/or betrayed deeply.

    My personal thoughts - logically and statistically Ayla was quite obviously harmed while in her father's care. My heart begs for Ayla to be found alive. My heart breaks as I wake each morning, as I make my coffee I think of Trista, wondering how in the hell she manages to even get out of bed each morning to face another day wondering, worrying about her precious little Ayla. I don't like to imagine how she must feel, but because I do allow my heart to play into my thought process, I'm always thinking of Trista.

    Jo (the Navy wife)

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    1. Jo, your comments really gave me goosebumps.

      Your comment of "Some people refuse to allow their heart to invade their thoughts. It's far to dangerous. This occurs mostly with people who've been hurt and/or betrayed deeply." is so very fitting for this case. Imagine how deeply Trista has been hurt and betrayed and still she wears her heart on her sleeve. She has opened herself from day one to the dangers of letting her heart invade her thoughts. May she remain strong and true!

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    2. Thanks for your thoughts, Jo. I share the same sentiments as you do!

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  14. Exactly, John P! I won't pretend to understand why/how people so easily wear their blinders.

    As for Trista, I explained my personal thoughts in regard to the photos of her smiling (located at the end of the comments from the post about Trista smiling).

    Good for those people, known by Trista or complete strangers, who can give her even a brief moment of positive thought, allowing Trista to smile through her pain. Trista's smile is beautiful! It's infectious. It gives me hope that no matter what, Trista will push on with her life and she's obviously a woman who has incredible inner strength! There is no doubt in my mind that she is truly in love with both of her children. So with that being said, I say, "Keep smiling Trista!" Thank God she has a good support system helping her, for even a brief moment, remember to find anything positive to provoke a smile. She clearly wears her heart on her sleeve, which isn't necessarily a fault. I truly admire Trista's strength, commitment, andher devotion to continue living each day, to speak out, and her relentless pursuit in finding Ayla!

    Jo (the Navy wife)

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  15. John P! GREAT POST!!! I think that "some" people that are raised as scum tend to believe the lies they tell. I think they have been raised to believe that if they don't answer a question, or answer a question in a round about way that they aren't really lying. The sad part of this is that I think what has happened here that the "crew" has told this lie for 5 months now, and that they are actually believing themselves. If you tell yourself something didn't happen for so long you may truly believe that it really didn't happen. Or if you tell a fabricated story of events that took place over and over again you may actually believe in your own mind over time that it really was the way something happened. I agree that I (we) don't want to say that Ayla is dead, who really wants to admit that? But, we cannot blind ourselves to the evidence that we know is out there. I would love to believe that she will come home to Trista and family, but I don't think she is coming home alive. I may get scrutinized for that comment but it is my opinion and my belief. They hurt Ayla by accident or intentional-I don't know. I firmly believe that the "crew" knows she is deceased and where her remains are. They just don't want anyone to find her yet. I haven't posted here in quite some time because this has become my opinion through research and time past and I don't want anyone to be upset with me over it. It's time to be logical and it's time to face facts. It is also time for all involved to take the high road and tell what they know.

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    1. Tammy, Your feelings of what has befallen Ayla are not far from my own? I will not scrutinize you for having an opinion. I respect you for stating it with the heartfelt sorrow you did. You thought through the evidence and still felt with your heart and are still hoping we are all wrong. If I am wrong with my beliefs of the evidence so far, I will post a writen apology to ALL the DiPietros. Well most anyways, I still feel if Ayla is alive and well Justins actions are absolutely atrocious in trying to plea with the kidnapper and working with LE and LRC! I pray I get the opportunity to write that apology.

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    2. I have said the same, John; if the day comes that Ayla is found alive and well-enough, and is returned to her family, I will be one of the first ones to address a public apology to Justin and his family for my opinions thus far. I actually am hopeful that day DOES arise as it will mean that sweet Ayla is amongst the living and is just in a bad place right now...I do remain hopeful, I'm just not convinced this is the case. I channel my energy into one thought each day for Ayla, and that is that she returns home to her Mother; how this is to happen remains unknown.

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    3. So very well said JMH. I could not agree more! I pray every day I am wrong and Ayla is returned to the arms of her loving mommy and her little brother!

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    4. If that happens, I will drive there and personally apologize to Justin! That is a promise! I hope I DO have to keep my promise, but I sadly, highly doubt it.

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  16. To clarify my reference above, I submitted a 2-part comment about smiling through the pain on the thread titled Guest Submission - KJ. My comments are located at the very bottom. I believe both of my comments relate and tie into each other, both on here (above) and on KJ's post.

    Jo (the Navy wife)

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    1. Jo, I had two additional paragraphs in this story initially but what KJ said was exactly what those paragraphs said only in a much better way. The link to her story was where the other paragraphs would have been. In your comments there though, Trista is truely smiling through the pain. Her smile with Ayla is so much broader and prouder than the forced smile they are criticising her for.

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  17. I doubt that that the items in the river are truly linked to Ayla. If they have been linked at all, it likely has been by Trista claiming that they are Ayla's belongings.

    But if Trista has made that claim, it will not surprise me since she and Jessica (before Jessica disappeared) have been pointing the finger at Justin since Day Two. I would need to see some corroboration that the items are linked to Ayla, such as through DNA or the testimony of another witness, before I would believe what Trista has to say about the items.

    And even if the items are linked to Ayla, that does not mean that Justin put the items in the water. Someone else could have done it. There would need to be some sort of evidence that Justin put the items in the water, such as by a witness account of his whereabouts or behavior, or his statements, or DNA or fiber evidence, or a videotape of him or his vehicle or the vehicle of his associate or relative at the dam/spillway/river site.

    Determining guilt has to be by more than assumptions, wild guesses, hunches and the testimony of someone who is involved in a custody dispute.

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    1. Since that spot was one of the first searched by LE, I'm pretty sure LE has a reason, evidence, ie phone pings, soil evidence, surveillance video, etc. Just because they aren't telling us what that is doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

      LE is not in the business of wasting valuable resources doing random things. If they continued to focus on the river, you can bet there's a reason.

      You can choose to hold judgement until there is a trial. That's certainly your right. But people can make logical assumptions based on LE's behavior, too.

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    2. I didn't see where Trista claimed the items are linked to Ayla. I saw that she is waiting for the items to be tested and may possibly be shown pictures. That is not a claim that the items ARE linked. I wonder if LE is going to show Justin pictures? I wonder why not? Because he is a liar and has stopped communicating with LE (which says to me that he is not actively participating in his daughters legal "kidnapping" investigation).

      IF they do relate to Ayla, you don't think Justin put them in the river?? Ayla was reported missing with her clothes on her back, her cast and possibly sling. I missed the part where the DiPietro's were robbed, as well as Ayla being "kidnapped". Was there signs of a break in? There isn't even signs/evidence of the "kidnapping".

      If there are items in that river that came from the DiPietro house, there is no logical explanation besides Justin and/or those in the home that night, put the items in the river. That is just common sense.

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    3. Kit, I am having issues with anons statement so help me out here if you would. I am getting old and a bit senile but IIRC, up until the vigil when Trista and Becca were told of the blood, Trista was defending Justin. She actually said on two occassions that I remember that he was the only one who knew how she felt and knew what she was going through because they were going through it together (paraphrasing) and at no time do I ever recall Trista saying Justin did it. She has asked for answers but never accused him directly of doing anything. Correct me if I am wrong Kit, please!!!

      ANON, How is it then, that from day 2 Trista has been pointing the finger at Justin when she was actually defending him. Get your facts straight please before accusing. That is after all one of the main premises for this post. Logical assumption based on facts is just part of the post.

      The other part of your statement is also in direct conflict with the DiPietro wishes however. They ALL believe LE is a group of inept, incompetant, stuck-on-themself, Barney Fifes that don't know how to process evidence. So why now are you saying you need these Barney Fifes to verify before you can take your blinders off? Just asking, but I really don't expect a response.

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    4. Yes John, I believe you are correct. Trista was originally trying to work WITH Justin. She did not come out, right from day one (or two), pointing her finger at Justin. BUT, I wouldn't even CARE if she DID! What else is she supposed to think? Really, she was right to want to work together with him. I don't know if I would have done the same!

      I found this video from Feb. 15th, I believe, as the reporter said it was 2 days until the 2 month mark. I *believe* this was the first time she publicly claimed to have doubts of the kidnapping.

      http://www.wlbz2.com/video/default.aspx?bctid=1454831718001

      * I understand sometimes the links/videos don't work. If you search "trista reynolds doubts kidnap", articles will pop up. *

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    5. Also, I'd like to add that when she WAS trying to work with him (example of the vigil where she hugged and spoke to him), she was ridiculed for that TOO! So, she shouldn't try to work with him, AND she shouldn't "point her finger"?? Yeah, I'm sure they would love for her to be quiet!

      I never thought it was SO strange for her to TRY to work with him. Who wants to believe the father of their child did the unthinkable to their child??

      Trista is ridiculed for everything she does. Why? To deflect. That's the only reason why I can figure.

      She's been doing everything she can for Ayla. I'm sure she will never stop. So, get used to it, Anon and Justin & Co.

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  18. The DiPietros and defenders are taking a giant leaf out of Cindy Anthony's playbook.

    That wiley woman knew that her grandchild was dead from her first calls to 911 where she said "It smells like there's been a dead body in the damm car." She had not talked to her grandchild for weeks. She put two and two together really quickly.

    But Cindy was a grandmother whose daughter meant much more to her than her granddaughter. Caylee was expendable in the fight to save her adored Casey. Caylee must be alive because Cindy knew a dead Caylee meant big troulble in River City and that rhymens with Casey.

    Cindy, in her own words, wasn't going to "...lose another one." So she did everything in her power to keep the charade going that Caylee had been kidnapped and "taken away" to, first, New York, or New Jersey, then Texas, California and finally Puerto Rico.

    We saw how Cindy treated anyone who was looking for the child's body. How she beat on them and accused them of being horrible people, threatened to sue them if they were obviously searching for Caylee's body...especially the volunteers looking in horrible conditions for Caylee like Texas Equisearch.

    meanwhile,IMO, Cindy even went so far as to fake and manufacture "sightings" of Caylee with pictures of strange children in malls who looked nothing like Caylee, but whom Cindy texted to supporters "Yes, it looks like Caylee" or "That story sounds like something Caylee would say." as proof to the Anthony crowd that Caylee was alive.

    The Dipetros' defenders, like Cindy Anthony, are simply beating up on anyone who dares to look for Ayla dead because Ayla dead means much more trouble for their dreamboat, Peachy, and his consort, sister and mum. I am always expecting some DiPierto manufactured Ayla sightings to hit the news. I guess the DiPietros are confident enough without some fake Ayla sightings.

    What is so strange about the Justin defenders is not that that they think anyone is horrible who looks for Ayla dead, but they think nothing of the DiPietros and Tudelas not looking for Ayla alive! Go figure!

    Ayla is safe for the time being, adjusting, thinking it's a game, and the Dipietros and their court must stay put and let "full of themselves" LE play out their moves until the imcompetant coppers gives them, the DiPietros and Tudelas, the proof about...er... something or other. Have you ever heard anything so completely off the wall? Cindy, come up to Maine and show the Anthonys how it's done! Heidi, take notes!
    __Pennyante

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  19. I meant "Cindy, come up to Maine and show the DiPietros how it's done." Sheesh. The Anthonys and the Dipietros must be blending in my brain! __Pennyante

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  20. This is from a Yahoo Contributor, so it is not NEWS, but I hadn't seen it before and it's well written. The title is,
    "Ayla Reynolds' Aunt Elisha DiPietro Bashes Police Competency"

    http://m.yahoo.com/w/legobpengine/news/ayla-reynolds-aunt-elisha-dipietro-bashes-police-competency-182700652.html?orig_host_hdr=news.yahoo.com&.intl=US&.lang=en-US

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  21. John P.--- in the very first tv interview Trista did, she pointed the finger at Justin. In the very first tv interview Jessica did, she pointed the finger at Justin. Maybe they did not come right out and say he killed or hid Ayla, but they sure made it sound like he was behind whatever happened. I listened to those broadcasts at the time and I came away with the impression that the father was a child abuser and a very bad, evil guy who must have done something to Ayla.

    Then it was more of the same when Trista did the Today Show interview with Matt Lauer.

    Trista later did fluctuate and defend Justin, even after learning of the supposed blood in the basement. She has been up and down with him, and it all depends on how much attention he is paying to her and how well they are getting along. I do suspect that if Justin broke up with Courtney and pledged to agree to joint custody and/or joint parenting with Trista, that Ayla would suddenly be "found" and Jessica would suddenly return from wherever she is hiding.

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    1. Do you have a link to Trista's very first TV interview please. I'm not sure which one is her very first one.

      The reason for her fluctuation, I believe, is do to a tremendous range of emotions, due to her daughter being "kidnapped". That just what I think. I wouldn't know for a fact. You apparently do, stating "...it all depends on how much attention he is paying to her...". I don't know how you know that... I'd be more inclined to think she did not want to think or believe that the fathet of her baby did something horrible to her, AND due to how much he was manipulating her. Like when her told her not to worry about the blood being found, when they were at the vigil. You can only believe and put your trust into someone for so long.

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    2. Uh, Justin had SOLE custody of Ayla when she disappeared - per Justin. Justin would not talk to Trista nor answer any of her questions. Who ELSE would she "point her finger at"?
      If you think Trista would EVER take Justin back again you are IMO, demented. When Trista was "up" with Justin, she was probably wearing a wire for LE to catch the sob. AND at this point... Justin would NEVER get custody of Ayla if she were to be found.

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    3. Your original post says, "Determining guilt has to be by more than assumptions, wild guesses, hunches and the testimony of someone who is involved in a custody dispute."

      Your rebuttal says, "Maybe they did not come right out and say he killed or hid Ayla, but they sure made it sound like he was behind whatever happened. I listened to those broadcasts at the time and I came away with the impression that the father was a child abuser and a very bad, evil guy who must have done something to Ayla."

      Are you not admitting to making an assumption through your percertion of the interviews? Are you not also agreeing that Trista did not come out and say Justin did it? If there is a double standard to be employed than we can not have a reasonable back and forth. Have a good night but I will move on to a viable debate and information gathering discussion.

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  22. Well written John, it illustrates reasoning as to why some people have blinders:) It is easier to think that Ayla has been taken by an ethical kidnapper or is hidden away by Trista than to think of the alternative, as the heart would want us to believe the best in people. But some of us have been hardened by life experiences and know that evil does exist on earth unfortunately. This case saddens me so much...

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    1. I agree Heather. The only thing is, most of the people claiming Trista kidnapped Ayla are not doing so because they only hope that Ayla is found safe. Maybe that's one reason (from some strangers, but not Justin & Co.). Most everyone hopes that Ayla is found safe, no matter what their mind is telling them. The reason sadly, for the Trista Did It Claim, is to deflect attention from Justin and the truth. I'm not saying that is the case for every single person. There are some people who don't have a theory either way, and just hope she is found safe. The one's claiming Trista kidnapped Ayla, the DiPietro's know that for a fact, they know where Ayla is, Ayla is ok for now, etc., are the ones trying to deflect. Deflection by blaming an innocent Mother.

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  23. Right now they are saying Raymond Fortier kidnapped her!

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  24. By golly! And I thought Trista was an incredible kidnapper leaving no traces, but Raymond "done it" while behind bars!
    Amazekins!

    Actually the DiP defenders are in recycle mode. Some time ago they had Raymond getting some of his released jail buddies to kidnap Ayla.

    Can't you just see some of them tromping through the little cottage and swooping up Ayla from her bed, after making sure that it was not Gabby, of course, or Ayden, and then taking Ayla through that "unlocked window that was always locked"? (Thanks for the info, Elisha!)Gee those Dips are heavy sleepers!

    Talk about desperation setting in. How has Raymond plotted the latest Fortier grab?
    __Pennyante

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    1. Haha, well they are blaming his friends and/or family, with the possibility thar he was at least behind it.

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    2. One blogger believes that someone in the house was responsible for Ayla's disappearance; another blogger believes that someone outside the house was responsible. Both bloggers discuss theories involving each person known and/or a combination of people.

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    3. OK, well where is Justin's father? Maybe it was him? Why is his identity such a big secret? Maybe it was Lances father or Elisha's father. The DiPietro's have MANY unknown relatives.

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  25. Kit, such a lot of abduction talent in Trista's circle...according to the DiPietro Defense League.

    Are they already throwing the spaghetti on the wall to see what might stick with future jury members?
    --Pennyante

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    1. Possibly. I guess the spaghetti is not done yet, because it's not sticking. :)

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  26. Okay people. Ayla is not kidnapped. Why?

    Because she was killed by Justin and Co. That is my firm belief. Do I wish it it was no so? OF COURSE!!!!

    But the Dips are covering something up. If it's not a kidnapping, then what else could they be lying about? There are not a lot of choices:

    A. Abduction
    B. Murder
    C. Alien Planetary Testing

    If it walks like a duck...................

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