I was reading at a blog today (yup, I read them sometimes!) and noticed a photo of Trista and the blogger had asked people to 'caption' the photo. Apparently, some people believe that Trista should not smile or enjoy life at all while Ayla... is missing.
This blogger asked the people to caption the person standing behind Trista, in what I can only assume was a veiled attempt at being "kind". But the readers quickly understood what this blogger truly wanted and complied! They began discussing Trista and the fact she was smiling in the photo presented. As one commenter, walkamileinhershoes stated, "a mere moment in time".
A good friend (I doubt that!) said, "Oh no maybe she does not know the camera is on. Maybe I should pinch her and make her make her cry face!" She looks ridiculous! Her baby is missing and she is laughing for Pete's sake."
CC said, "Yep, I have to say, if my child was missing, I certainly wouldn't be laughing and acting like I was having a grand ole time. Especially at an event for that missing child... But maybe that's just me."
Bring Ayla Home says, "We truly cannot understand someone's feelings on the inside, by looking at them from the outside, unless we are in their shoes. This goes for Justin and this goes for Trista. A picture tells a million words, yes, but only Trista can narrow it down to a few specific feelings at that moment."
Oh my, a voice of reason amongst the insanity. Thank you Bring Ayla Home.
Could it be says, "Why is Trista so happy? If my child was missing I would only be that happy if I knew where she was....holy shit...does Trista know where Ayla is?!? Why else would she be so happy?!?! I.Can't.BELIEVE.this. She is REPULSIVE!"
Anonymous said, "I can not imagine laughing and carrying on like that. Yes a smile yes live because you have another child but not singing and dancing in the street. Laughing and having a good time when the camera and microphone are in your face."
Oh my, imagine that, laughing and having a good time at a "birthday vigil" with birthday cake and music. I don't know about anonymous, but most of the birthday events I attend have some type of laughing and dancing. Perhaps if someone hadn't taken Ayla away from Trista, she could have really celebrated her little girl's 2nd birthday. Unfortunately, Trista wasn't afforded that opportunity by the perpetrators of the crime against her daughter.
This is just a sample of some of the people at that blog site, there are also those who seem to be a bit more compassionate and sympathetic. Although, the majority giggle and laugh at the image of a mother who is missing her child and complain if Trista should happen to have any moments of joy in her life.
What is appropriate behavior when your child is missing? Does anyone have the book on how to behave, because I've not seen one, but apparently these blog readers have it. I'm a mother and I'm a grandmother. I don't know how I would behave. I am sure I would have moments of deep and utter sadness and despair. I'm equally sure I would still have moments of joy and happiness, too. And just sometimes, these moments might be captured by a camera.
Trista was dealt a hand and she has laid all her cards face up on the table. In doing so, she has had to deal with the sarcastic and toxic tongues of many a fool, who only by the grace of God, is not in her shoes. Trista did not choose to be a public person. She did not choose to have D.H.H.S. steal her child away from her and her family. This was a family unit where Ayla lived, loved and thrived for 20 months of her life. A far cry from the few weeks Ayla spent at the DiPietro home, in which Ayla quickly went missing.
Trista has every right to smile, to laugh and to dance (if she so chooses). She has done nothing to deserve anyone's criticism, least of all the criticism from those who were in the DiPietro home when Ayla went missing. Those who spend their time criticizing Trista are merely trying to deflect the attention away from the real perpetrators of this crime. The only question I have is WHY would anyone want to do that? - KJ