Friday, May 11, 2012

Guest Submission-KJ

I was reading at a blog today (yup, I read them sometimes!) and noticed a photo of Trista and the blogger had asked people to 'caption' the photo. Apparently, some people believe that Trista should not smile or enjoy life at all while Ayla... is missing.

This blogger asked the people to caption the person standing behind Trista, in what I can only assume was a veiled attempt at being "kind". But the readers quickly understood what this blogger truly wanted and complied! They began discussing Trista and the fact she was smiling in the photo presented. As one commenter, walkamileinhershoes stated, "a mere moment in time".

A good friend (I doubt that!) said, "Oh no maybe she does not know the camera is on. Maybe I should pinch her and make her make her cry face!" She looks ridiculous! Her baby is missing and she is laughing for Pete's sake."

CC said, "Yep, I have to say, if my child was missing, I certainly wouldn't be laughing and acting like I was having a grand ole time. Especially at an event for that missing child... But maybe that's just me."

Bring Ayla Home says, "We truly cannot understand someone's feelings on the inside, by looking at them from the outside, unless we are in their shoes. This goes for Justin and this goes for Trista. A picture tells a million words, yes, but only Trista can narrow it down to a few specific feelings at that moment."

Oh my, a voice of reason amongst the insanity. Thank you Bring Ayla Home.

Could it be says, "Why is Trista so happy? If my child was missing I would only be that happy if I knew where she was....holy shit...does Trista know where Ayla is?!? Why else would she be so happy?!?! I.Can't.BELIEVE.this. She is REPULSIVE!"

Anonymous said, "I can not imagine laughing and carrying on like that. Yes a smile yes live because you have another child but not singing and dancing in the street. Laughing and having a good time when the camera and microphone are in your face."

Oh my, imagine that, laughing and having a good time at a "birthday vigil" with birthday cake and music. I don't know about anonymous, but most of the birthday events I attend have some type of laughing and dancing. Perhaps if someone hadn't taken Ayla away from Trista, she could have really celebrated her little girl's 2nd birthday. Unfortunately, Trista wasn't afforded that opportunity by the perpetrators of the crime against her daughter.

This is just a sample of some of the people at that blog site, there are also those who seem to be a bit more compassionate and sympathetic. Although, the majority giggle and laugh at the image of a mother who is missing her child and complain if Trista should happen to have any moments of joy in her life.

What is appropriate behavior when your child is missing? Does anyone have the book on how to behave, because I've not seen one, but apparently these blog readers have it. I'm a mother and I'm a grandmother. I don't know how I would behave. I am sure I would have moments of deep and utter sadness and despair. I'm equally sure I would still have moments of joy and happiness, too. And just sometimes, these moments might be captured by a camera.

Trista was dealt a hand and she has laid all her cards face up on the table. In doing so, she has had to deal with the sarcastic and toxic tongues of many a fool, who only by the grace of God, is not in her shoes. Trista did not choose to be a public person. She did not choose to have D.H.H.S. steal her child away from her and her family. This was a family unit where Ayla lived, loved and thrived for 20 months of her life. A far cry from the few weeks Ayla spent at the DiPietro home, in which Ayla quickly went missing.

Trista has every right to smile, to laugh and to dance (if she so chooses). She has done nothing to deserve anyone's criticism, least of all the criticism from those who were in the DiPietro home when Ayla went missing. Those who spend their time criticizing Trista are merely trying to deflect the attention away from the real perpetrators of this crime. The only question I have is WHY would anyone want to do that? - KJ




58 comments:

  1. The second to last paragraph is beautifully written and says all that needs to be said. Why do people feel compelled to be so judgmental of someone who is suffering so much and not even suspected of a crime?

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  2. God bless Trista and Ayla. They are in my thoughts and prayers. I've read those innappropriate, cruel comments. The thing about them is... They say so much more about the people leaving them than they do about who they are commenting about. Believe it or not, those hateful comments about Trista have little to do with her. It's about them and some inner turmoil in their lives. I pay them no mind, and U hope Trista can too.

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    1. VERY WELL SAID, Libby! ITA and its so warming to see that there are still a FEW people out there with a soul and a conscience. Thank you!

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    2. You are welcome. Thank you!

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    3. You are welcome. Thank you!

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    4. The same can be said about the nasty and cruel comments left about the paternal family and their supporters.

      Think about that.

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    5. I've thought about, and I really don't care about baby killers.
      Libby

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    6. Does it bother you that someone sees through the "Trista smear campaign" of complete disrespect for a grieving mother?! No Anonymous, sorry but I'm not buying what those guilty liars are sellin (Justin, Elisha, Courtney)

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    7. Well said Libby!

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  3. Excellent post KJ! You articulate your thoughts very concisely. In response to your question, there is only one reason I can think of that anyone would intentionally add to the misfortune of a mother who has lost a child. That reason, ignorance! Attention can be achieved through self improvement and fullfillment. Questions can be asked in a respectful and tactful way. Opinions and scenarios voiced in a fashion to avoid rumor, accusation and name calling. But ignorance can't be fixed, until the ignorant realize thier own shortcomings.

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    1. ITA John P! Ignorance is THE main reason. I was thinking guilt. But really, it all stems from ignorance.

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    2. John P!, "You articulate your thoughts very concisely". Thank you, it must be my 70's schooling. (j/k)

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    3. M-I-M, Maybe it is my 70's schooling that makes your writing seem so clear? (J/K) Seriously, the thoughts you were able to put in writing have been in my head for weeks with no avenue of escape. Thank You for this post.

      Kit, you are very wise as well. The guilt one feels inside for a prior offense, can more easily be projected to another than corrected within oneself. This is actually leads to the ignorance. If people would find a way to accept themselves rather than judge others???

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    4. Yes, John- and might I add one more? JEALOUSY- of others, ignoring the pain felt by others, and instead letting the evils of jealousy make them WANT the fame and beauty or even material objects that others possess. Jealousy is the tool of evil spirits!
      From what I've seen since poor Ayla disappeared (specifically on unnammed blogs) there was, and still is MUCH evil surrounding this poor child. I pray, everyday, that this evil will be defeated by the prayers and goodness of so many others who have grown to "know" Ayla and her beautiful Mother!

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    5. LLLadybug. You are so right. Thank you for reminding me this human flaw. Most are able to control this, but unfortunately there are too many that can not!

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  4. That was a powerful read.

    "A mother's pain does not always show as tears, sometimes it shows as strength."

    I can not understand how people can and continue to be SO cruel to Trista! Her baby girl is "missing". Missing from her fathers home...

    "Those who spend their time criticizing Trista are merely trying to deflect the attention away from the real perpetrators of this crime. The only question I have is WHY would anyone want to do that?"

    That is a great question. WHY WOULD anyone want to do that? I'd also like to know HOW? HOW can they live with themselves? Trista's baby girl is missing. As if that is not heartbreaking enough, that is not torture enough! People, some of which know full well where Ayla is and what happened to her, have not one piece if decency! It does not faze them, in the least, to be so out right CRUEL to Trista, Ayla's Mother. Ayla's Mother, who is clearly heartbroken, who obviously cares and loves so deeply for her baby girl. HOW can anyone live with themselves, while doing this, while causing more heartbreak and torture for this Mother, for Ayla's Mother? How can they sleep at night??

    It is bad enough, to potentially do "something" to a precious child, but then to add on top of that, to TRY to BLAME an innocent Mother!? That is truly, the lowest of the low!

    Trista is clearly a very strong person. How she gets through Ayla being "missing", I do not know. Then to add fuel to the fire, she also has to endure, from the people/family where Ayla went "missing", nothing but lies, ridicule, torture and abuse! Obviously Trista is a lot stronger than these "people" think! She will continue to be Ayla's voice, continue to search for her, search for the TRUTH, fight for her, fight for JUSTICE FOR AYLA!

    Justice will be served for that baby girl! Here on earth, and for all eternity!

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  5. It's akin to bullying really. The internet and social media create the opportunity for people to hide behind a digital wall and say things they would never dream of saying to their subject's face. When you don't have to look your subject in the eye, human emotions like empathy and compassion too easily take the back seat. It is a trend that will come to hurt us all in the end.

    The loss of civility in our society is frightening. It is our civility and respect for others that builds strong and vibrant communities. There is plenty of room in society for different opinions when civility and respect are priorities. Take those things away and differences of opinion turn into society's downfall.

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    1. WhereAreWeHeadedMay 11, 2012 at 2:52 PM

      That is so true, Anon 2:45PM and scary, too. I often wonder what those who make cruel and insensitive comments, think of themselves.

      In combat, a preferred tactic is to desensitize your army to the 'human' nature of their enemy. If a person does not view them as human, they can more easily point a gun at them and fire.

      We have a whole generation of people on the internet desensitizing themselves to each other! Scary indeed.

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    2. I totally agree anon and internet bullying has become an epidemic. Being anon on social media sites and blogs give certain types of people an empowerment to speak/write awful thoughts and words that they wouldn't if you were face to face with them. Where is the empathy and compassion? I have to wonder how horribly they must view themselves if hurting and belittling people makes them feel more powerful. Why aren't people observing "The Golden Rule" anymore of do unto others...? It really does work. And WAWH, the combat analogy is perfect. We are becoming desensitized to the thoughts and feelings of others. It is scary. You have to make a conscious decision to teach your children empathy. You know, ask our kids - how would you feel if this happened to you, how do you think it makes them feel when you call them names or hurt them, why would you want to make them sad? Otherwise they grow up selfish and thinking it's all about me and they'll be the next generation to act like these buffoons.

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  6. Betty from BangorMay 11, 2012 at 2:52 PM

    ITA Kit-Very well said!! I only wish Elisha would put Gabby as the Love of her Life and the Most Important!!

    Why would a mother willingly go to jail for her brother and lose her own precious daughter???

    Doesn't Gabby mean anything to you Elisha?

    Do the right thing for Gabby-Speak the Truth about Ayla!!!

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  7. How dare Trista be caught smiling in public??

    How about:
    HOW DARE JUSTIN barely ever showing his FACE in public, or putting himself out there--AT ALL--for the sake of the daughter HE claims was abducted, while she was in "HIS SOLE CUSTODY"???

    AND, IIRC...wasn't JUSTIN seen in public purchasing an assortment of ALCOHOL, down at the local liquour mart, in the days after he reported his daughter missing?? AFTER claiming he wasn't "emotionally capable" of pleading to Ayla's "kidnappers" for her safe return? Emotionally capable of making a beer-run though, huh???

    What the hell is WRONG with these people, that they cannot see the double-standard they hold these two parents to?
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    1. And I guess it is morally acceptible to also go out for a nice Sunday drive and stop for a little beat down party while your out right. The double-standards are really starting to pile up!

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    2. Don't forget renting movies at Redbox. I wouldn't even find fault with these things, had he actually shown some LOVE for Ayla! Instead of being a Man, he and his defenders, would rather take the easy way out. Point the finger at someone innocent. Not even just anyone, as was his initial plan ("not her parent"). No! At Ayla's heartbroken Mother! That is beyond wrong! Justin hasn't personally participated, publicly, with these tactics, but he is def. allowing it to continue! He needs to Man Up!

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  8. Trista is innocent and Justin is guilty. Trista was a very ordinary person going about the business of her life until encountering this tragedy. They attack her as a way of attacking themselves. In spiritual words it is demonism and demonization. As the years go by Trista shall thank herself a 10000 times for filing those court papers on the day before Ayla went missing. She made her stand and drew a line in the sand. Even if Ayla was gone by then she'll know she was willing to do anything for that kid no matter what. On the other side all they have is the dehumanizing of another human to remember for all eternity. The guilty have unending darkness and Trista and Ayla shall reunite and embrace again in the eternal light.

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    1. "Trista and Ayla shall reunite and embrace again in the eternal light."

      Yes they will! Trista and Ayla WILL be reunited, no matter how long it takes. It may not be easy and it may seem to be taking "forever", but they will FOREVER be together. No one can or will take that from Trista OR Ayla! Trista is strong. She will continue to find that strength to carry on, until and FOR that reunion with her baby girl.

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  9. Looking at the photos of Trista, I truly see strength. I also see from her clear skin and eyes that she is staying clean as hard as I know that must be for her right now. This mother's day, I think we could all learn a lesson in strength and humility from Trista Reynolds.

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  10. Just noticed new article in Morning Sentinel.

    http://www.onlinesentinel.com/news/Police-recover-more-items-from-Kennebec-River.html?searchterm=Ayla+Reynolds

    More items found in the river- on Tuesday????

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    1. Thanks PB!

      I pray that these items help get Ayla's case moving!

      Yes, people will think it's cruel and mean to hope the items relate. It's not! It's not cruel to want justice for Ayla. It's cruel to NOT want it.

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    2. Yes - I just saw that too. They drained the channel where the previous items were found and sent divers in where it couldn't be drained fully. Items were recovered and have been sent to the crime lab. No confirmation on what those items are.

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    3. I don't think they would have drained the channel to further search if they didn't confirm or at least strongly believe the items found there earlier were related to Ayla.

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    4. I agree Anon. I think they would have known and said the previous items found were not related to Ayla if that were the case. This further search makes me believe they were related.

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    5. Agreed, "Anon" and MOO---

      I doubt they'd go to the trouble and expense of draining the sleuceway, if the other items found are NOT thought to be related to Ayla's disappearance.

      Once again, the ACTIONS of LE speak volumes...even in the absence of direct confirmation or a public statement release!!

      This is very encouraging news as to Ayla's case progressing, IMHO..though, obviously bitter-sweet as well.
      :'(

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  11. If someone REALLY wants to see a picture of Trista smiling... Look at one when she is with Ayla...

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    1. So true, and I am pretty sure that those moments when she smiles since Ayla has been missing, she is remembering those precious moments with her baby girl.

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    2. Amen to that Kit!

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  12. Just wanted to say I have been enjoying all the reader/guest contributions of late.

    I hope this continues. We have some really good hearts and minds devoted to Ayla's case here and sometimes all that needs expressing cannot be done so in a mere comment.

    Keep it up :)

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    1. ITA TL!! This latest contribution was the best yet!They are getting better and better, more and more helpful for Ayla and her family!

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  13. MORE items pulled from the Kennebec this week??

    Enjoy this Mothers' Day, Phoebe, Elisha and Courtney...

    I predict it to be the LAST, most of you will ever enjoy as FREE WOMEN!!

    [Don't worry, though... I'm sure your kids can send their cards for you, to the Federal Penitentiary you'll be calling home...]

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    1. Yes, more items recovered today. Please let this be a some evidence needed to put those responsible in jail. I think Justin killed Ayla and the family is covering for him. This can only be a sad ending. Thanks J4Ayla.

      http://www.wmtw.com/news/maine/central/New-items-recovered-from-river-as-part-of-investigation-into-missing-toddler/-/8791976/13088524/-/5ob8qsz/-/index.html#comments

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    2. grannyc2girls: from VIRGINIA
      Little Ayla is constantly on my mind and in my heart. I'm praying that she is safe and will be home soon. Always praying for the best and refusing to think about the worst. She is an adorable little blond haired blue eyed precious girl. Please bring her home to her loving Mommy.

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    3. Justin knows Justin killed Ayla.

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    4. I'm thinking that Justin Dipietro deposited the evidence pertaining to Ayla in the River after the initial search on February 3, 2012. I also believe that Phoebe Dipietro was in fact in the house that day because according to her, she stated that there was no party, causing Derek Tudela to retrack his statement about a play date. If Momma Dipietro was there, she would have had to account for sleeping with Ayla in the room but the abduction story wouldn't jive with her sleeping in that room so they had to say she wasn't there. Elisha was sleeping with Gabby in one room and Ayla in the other (alone?) No, Phoebe was most likely present and that's why she didn't lie to CNN the first time, but lied afterwards to account for her sleeping arrangements. Lest we not forget that the caring father of the year Justin was sleeping with his weekend lover Courtney Roberts and her son Ayden in the basement so concerned that someone may perhaps take Ayla and never checks on her in over 12 hours? The story they wanted everyone to believe is that a kidnap occurred so now conveniently evidence is now showing up in the River that had been checked already.

      Ayla's Reynolds appointment was made personally by the ER Doctor in Waterville for her to be seen in Portland on Dec. 16, as they did not have any specialist in Waterville. But Ayla is never bought in. Justin came up with the lie that he was going to have her seen in Waterville cause I guess it was too far away. Makes and made no sense then or now. Just pure lies coming from the Dipietro family.

      Was the neighbor who heard noise, a car door slam at 3am on Dec. 17th taken seriously?

      Elisha Dipietro states now that the window may have been unlocked and that the FBI overlooked it. No way Elisha, I have done work for the FBI, the U.S. Marshal's and the state troopers in many states for many years. They don't overlook things like this. The make up lies need to stop at some point. I have spoken to other LE and Agents in regards to Ayla's case and they do not think on a personal level that Trista Reynolds had anything to do with the "kidnapping". I hope and pray that this nightmare comes to an end. Just bring Ayla back home to her Mom, alive or dead. She needs to know what happened to her baby girl and so do others who have grown to love this child so much.

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    5. I think Phoebe just thought it would sound better during her interview, to pretend that she was home "that night". Not realizing until after, that it did not match up with whatever she/they told LE. She or one of the others said - oh $#!@, that needs to be "clarified"!

      I don't think Elisha said that LE overlooked the window being unlocked, but just that the window WAS unlocked and should not have been. Which is just a silly lie anyway, because there is no way someone got IN through the window, as it was not tampered with and could not be opened from the outside, AND there is no way someone jumped out and then closed it, after jumping down. It is the 1st floor, BUT still too high to complete this process, I believe. Plus, once again, it was not tampered with.

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  14. Yes, because the Waterville Sentinel is so NOT biased when it comes to Trista... RIGHT. They wait for pictures to catch Trista smiling. Their articles portray the Dips as victims and they post NOTHING to help Ayla. I hate that alleged news source. I know someone who wrote and complained to the head of the journaling department only to be told that an article about "Ayla" was actually not about Ayla but about the Dips. I had her forward me the transcript of their conversation below:

    From: "Jim Evans"
    To: xxxxx.com
    Sent: Monday, March 12, 2012 9:45:38 AM
    Subject: Re: Sentinal News

    M;
    What led you to believe that the story was about Ayla
    Reynolds? The story clearly stated that there are
    friends of Justin DiPietro who have a perspective that
    others do not. In matters of public interest, not only
    are differing perspectives important they are a
    fundamental to our democracy.

    If you have information about Ayla's whereabouts,
    please let me know and and how you know it.

    Sincerely,

    Jim Evans
    Managing Editor
    Morning Sentinel
    Waterville, Maine


    xxxxx.com wrote:
    > Dear Sir,
    >
    > One of the first articles I read at the Sentinel was about a woman who
    > robbed a gas station, clogged the toilet and got caught.
    >
    > Today, I was outraged at the article regarding poor Ayla Reynolds. The
    > article was supposed to be about a missing 2 month old baby girl, but it
    > was 1700 words about the hard life of Justin Diepetro spoken through
    > Heidi Tudella. That article was an injustice to Ayla Reynolds and it
    > breaks my heart that a news source not only allowed such a fluffy piece
    > of junk, but had it on the front page.
    >
    > It saddens me to think that more than one college education was wasted
    > on employees of the Waterville Sentinel. What a shame.
    >
    > Sincerely,
    >

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    1. PS: Needless to say, the WS refused to post her conversation in the "comments" section once Jim realized that the public wasn't taking kindly to his icy comments about Ayla.

      Who do the Dips/Pheebs know at the WS that risk their professionalism to go against a missing, murdered baby?

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    2. It's not the Dips that have the connection, it's the Tudela's. My opinion only, but when I can print the facts you will see them here first! Also, new post up regarding the discovery.

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  15. I guess I would have to actually value someone's immature and simplistic view of Trista's picture to be upset about it. The sole purpose is to "wag the dog". The truth speaks for itself, it does not hide. I am praying for you Trista and your family, stay strong:)

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  16. In this life, what you put out there is what comes back at you. Rest assured the people that delight in torturing Trista are miserable sombitches.

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    1. Anon 7:43,
      You know I actually very much agree with your comment.
      I am wondering if you feel that the same is true for those that delight in torturing the DiPitero family?

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    2. Trista is a victim of vicious criminals that have hurt her daughter. All anyone wants from the dips is the truth.

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    3. WaitingForJustintobeHonestMay 12, 2012 at 10:36 AM

      Anon 9:58 PM, I do not see any torture of the Dipietro family. I see the public doing what they need to do to try to get the Dipietro's to talk about what REALLY happened to Ayla. The LE says that the Dipietro family is NOT telling the LE everything they know. I happened to believe the LE over the Dipietro family. Unfortunately, there are people who are making it easy and comfortable for the Dipietro's to not talk. Too bad, those people are only prolonging the time it will take to get the people to committed this crime against Ayla. Let them keep coddling the poor little Dipietro's. If the Dipietro's are as innocent as they claim, they would be out there looking for Ayla. Justin would be going to the LE every day to see what he could do or say to help. IF they were as innocent as they claim, they would not be hiding and letting others talk for them.

      Justin, when will it be the RIGHT time for Ayla to come home? Please tell us!

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  17. They aren't being tortured. They know what happened to Ayla....the torture is not knowing.

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  18. First of all, i dont see Trista laughing in any of these pictures..i saw one where she is smiling, and one where she may be starting to smile or speak. For them to pick apart those two pictures (or one pic.) is so childish! What if someone had just said something really special about Ayla to her, causing her to smile? What if she was forcing a smile and gritting her teeth wishing everyone would go away and leave her alone? What if she was thinking about an up coming civil suit against the ones directly involved in Aylas disappearence?? Just what if?????

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  19. It's both easy and hard to judge a stranger's actions, especially when traumatic events occur. As a clear example, my mother had stage 4 BC, yet fought hard while extending her 6 month death sentence into 16 and a half years. Her prayers were answered, in that she lived long enough to watch her children grow up. I was barely 21 years old when my mother died.

    At her insistence, there was no funeral or burial for her. She specifically wanted our family and friend's to celebrate her life, sharing the multitude of happy memories we have of, and with, her. And so, we had a celebration. There were moments of tears and heartache, but mostly smiles and laughter. It was a wonderful day.

    My point is not about me, my mom, or my family. My point is that strangers looking from outside could easily judge us as heartless for our celebration. With respect, you must be able to allow yourself to smile through the pain. You must seek the positive, especially in times of negativity! I

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    1. (Continued)

      I commend Trista for her strength! I'm also grateful she has family and friends who help her keep her sanity. God knows I don't believe I'd have even an ounce of her willpower, if my child disappeared.

      Personally, I'm glad to see pictures of Trista smiling, rather than allowing her own life slip away in such a traumatic time in her life!

      Jo (the Navy wife)

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    2. Well said Jo (the Navy wife)! Well said!

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