That being said, this second part to my first article is coming in at a delayed angle and since I wrote the draft of this article, my thoughts have changed in several aspects (as they always do with this tragic case). J4A created a new thread once the comments on Wordman’s article hit the 200-count, and I’ve shared quite a bit of thoughts on there with all of you on that post. If you’re new here or are a regular and haven’t been around today to read through them all, I think you’ll find them interesting and thought provoking. I’m so pleased at the positive discussion on the blog today (as well as last night); it’s a nice change in direction after such a trying couple of weeks. That new thread can be found HERE.
This post will address the psychological aspects of the information we received and duly posted. First, I’d like to address a thing or two: I am not in the field of psychology, and it should not be assumed that this is in anyway close to a psychological evaluation. My plan on this second part was to mainly provide links to articles I located in my internet searches regarding psychology and that of a liar (among other things). The psychic’s perspective that we received left me confused, and my internet research proved to be insightful at the very least and I feel as if I’m now at least partially versed in what parallel lying is and reasoning behind the same.
Near the beginning of the information provided to us, the term, “parallel lying” was introduced. Although I had heard of this term before (but in different context and phrasing), I was not entirely sure on what this was. I came across an article on parallel lying, which was the fifth part of a five-part series of articles on “The Poor Man’s Polygraph”; in it, parallel lying was briefly touched on as follows: ”People tend to tell the truth except when the truth prevents them from achieving a desired outcome.”
(If you’re interested in reading the full series of articles on “The Poor Man’s Polygraph”, it begins HERE.)
In these articles, it is repeated throughout the posts that the technique of The Poor Man’s Polygraph provides deceptive indicators, not proof of deception. It also states that no one verbal cue indicates deception, but the probability of deception increases when clusters of deceptive indicators are present. As a side note, this struck my memory, as I have read this throughout Statement Analysis’ website.
In part three of the aforementioned series of articles, it is detailed that “Liars, when faced with two choices, tend to pick one of the choices presented rather than seeking a third alternative. This tendency is due to cognitive overload. Truthful people do not experience cognitive overload; they simply convey facts. Liars, on the other hand, are operating at near-full or full cognitive capacity depending on the complexity of the lies. Liars have to remember what they said and did not say. They also have to monitor and control their verbal responses and nonverbal behaviors. Additionally, liars have to monitor their target's verbal responses and nonverbal behaviors to ensure that the target believes the lie. The mind of a liar is fully occupied, especially if detection has dire consequences.” Reading this brought me back to Justin’s minimal interviews he has given in the last four months…
Recall Justin’s first interview on the TODAY show; in it, he defended his silence by stating that he was “emotionally incapable” to do an interview. To me, that speaks volumes. Could he be holding up his lies so firmly in his mind that he has no more capacity available to introduce anything “extra” for Trista, her family, the public, the media, and even LE? Since that first interview, he has maintained his silence, with minimal further statements given as well as allowing commentary from the likes of distant family members and trusted adults in his circle; my issue with this of course, is that the additional comments voiced from these people (we all know who they are) pretty much cement the notions that this man is guilty, or at least plays a part in the guilt.
Why would anyone continue to make excuses for such
The second portion of the information provided to us detailed a sense of anger that Justin has potentially harbored towards his mother, Phoebe, throughout his life; the anger is that which was festering internally throughout Justin’s life as a direct result of Phoebe’s life choices. I stumbled across another article when searching for insight on anger; in it was an interesting quote: ”What you feel matters; what you do with your feelings even more so.”
This above-linked article discusses the three poisons of life: greed, ignorance, and anger. Take a look at how anger is described here: “Anger is different than the other two emotions in this way: anger per se isn't a problem. In fact, it is useful as an emotional marker indicating that a moral value has been breached. It is a valuable emotion in relation to perceived injustices. As legal scholar Steven Hartwell, professor emeritus of University of San Diego points out, "the role of anger is fundamentally . . . to readjust relationships . . . Anger says that not only was there an unfairness, but the unfairness either came about or was intensified because the action was inconsistent with expectations raised by the relationships . . . Anger singles that a relationship needs repair."”
Could this give explanation as to the dynamic between Mother and Son (Phoebe and Justin)? Their relationship needed repair; had Phoebe ever addressed issues with her children for her life choices? Were there issues amongst them? Obviously, we do not know, but it makes for interesting thought processes when considering other silent angles in this case.
The final part (and overall lingering thoughts I’ve had throughout this case) is the unending support from the women surrounding Justin; I see a lot of manipulation on Justin’s part, followed by an abundance of enabling on the women’s parts. In yet another article I came across, an enabler was described as one “who is quick to create a context in which another person can play out his/her own script. S/he is the clean up crew, the bank, the Great Mother (or Father), the counselor, coach, confidante and priest. S/he is the unwavering refuge from the big, bad world who creates herself to be, not only ultimately dependable, but virtually indispensable to the continued behavior of the enabled”.
I see this in all of these women: Phoebe, Elisha, Courtney, Heidi, Angela, and even Aunt Selena; they have poor boundaries, they trust too easily and some of them seek validation from their actions (although they like to appear otherwise, even though their responses on their private pages are nothing less than immediate defense for their actions and their unending support).
With regard to manipulation, the final piece I wanted to address after reading through the psychological theory given to us, I came across this article. The initial portion of the article addresses how we as human beings rarely address any signals that predators display, and how there are always clues. Here is a quote from the article: “There are clues. But it's not the behaviors they reveal that matter; it's how easily we overlook them or give them a benign spin. Predators operate best within a realm of trust, using social conventions as their tools. They rely on charm and exploit expectation.” It also describes how charm is almost always a directed instrument, which has motive.
There is also a list provided in “clues to look for”, so to speak, when dealing with potential psychopaths; what stood out to me is one from the list: “Psychopaths tend to like control, so if the social rules you express are unclear or weak, they'll spot the loopholes and take advantage.” This was a huge red flag for me in terms of the loopholes in the system that Justin was able to ascertain, which then supported his retrieval of Ayla from Jessica’s apartment. In my eyes, Justin knew what he was doing, down to the rainy night in which was perfectly in line with one of Ayla’s injuries.
Again, this is just another theory, but at the time that we received the psychological reading, this theory above hit me a little more deeply. If you consider the family dynamic that Phoebe created within her family, I think it would make sense that one (if not all) of her children harbored a resentment that stuck with them throughout their lives to the point of triggering the dark psychology of one’s mind (i.e., a dormant capacity for predatory behavior; to commit and engage in heinous acts, and this capacity has access to our thoughts, feelings and perceptions). We all have this inner aptitude, but only a few of us act upon it.
As a final thought to all of this, I came across a single paragraph in my research that I felt was rather thought provoking. I will provide the first sentence for you to ponder: ”According to the Doctrine of Doing and Allowing, it is more difficult to justify doing harm than it is to justify allowing harm.” This one sentence wrapped up all of this in my eyes: the manipulation, the anger, the resentment, the enabling; all of it. It’s as if Justin’s immediate support system has literally felt that justifying the allowance of the harm in Ayla’s life versus addressing the harm inflicted on Ayla’s life is where the priorities lie; how ridiculous does that seem to you? I’ve read a lot of comments from the support system in his life giving reasons and excuses for every injury Ayla endured, rather than answering the direct questions which could support (or more than likely NOT support) the harm Ayla endured. It continues to make NO SENSE TO ME. After reading this article, following all of the new developments shared on our blog over the last week or so, what are your thoughts on all of this?
(Update: Unfortunately, the broken link was for a purpose; the link I pulled weeks ago appears to no longer be available, or I may have copied the wrong one as a whole and cannot locate it anymore! I did find a separate page altogether that was interesting and is related to the Doctrine of Doing and Allowing Harm, and it can be found HERE.)
As for Justin…only you have the power to change all of this for your daughter. When will the time be right?