I’m sure everyone has watched the news coverage on the tornado victims, the devastation they have faced and the obstacles they have to overcome. One story in particular is getting national news and that is the story of the mom who laid on top of her children to protect them and in that, lost her legs but her children walked away without a scratch. Every interview I have watched her on, I feel her selflessness. She does not consider herself brave or a hero, she just considers herself a mother who would put her life on the line so that her children remain safe. She said it was just instinct.
Every time I see their story I think of Justin DiPietro. I have heard so many excuses on why he will not do media interviews: Ayla is getting enough coverage, everyone will twist what he says, he doesn’t want to answer questions and only wants to plead for his daughter, he doesn’t want to play a he said/she said, he is socially awkward, this isn’t about him, it’s about Ayla and so on. The only thing I see with these excuses is self-preservation. The total opposite of the mom who protected her children. The only instinct here is self-preservation.
I’ll even give him the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he is all those things or believes all of those things, maybe he is just young and naïve. But maybe it’s time for some tough love from those people around him. At some point he needs to sink or swim on his own. You can be his support but can no longer be HIS voice, he needs to have his own.
So here is my tough love for Justin:
Be the mother who lost her legs to save her children. I know you are already getting criticism but I have a feeling if it was that mother whose child was kidnapped she would allow herself to be dragged through the coals and back again as many times as it took to get her child back. She would not care about people calling her names and saying she is guilty.
If you are truly innocent and there is a kidnapper out there that has Ayla, why would they feel guilty about keeping her. You don’t care enough to plead for her or beg for her. You said you have to believe someone who wanted a child took her, if you believe that why aren’t you asking for her back, EVERY DAY. You don’t feel you have to appease the general public, well guess what, that kidnapper is part of the general public, they won’t hear your prayers but they will see your face on camera pleading for your daughter. You don’t want to answer questions, make a YouTube video where you control what you say.
You’re worried about what the kidnapper will do if you speak, what will happen if you don’t?
Now is the time to point fingers, now is the time to yell and scream, now is the time to get angry that your daughter has not been found, now is the time to play he said/she said. Who cares if it makes you look like the bad guy, who cares if it makes you someone you don‘t want to be, YOUR daughter is out there with someone she doesn’t know and if it brings her back home so be it.
Ayla may be getting local coverage but that national coverage is dwindling. She is YOUR daughter, it is YOUR responsibility to make sure her name and face stay out there and the best way to do that is to put your face out there. People can pass by just another missing child poster but if they see how much she is loved and wanted they sympathize with that, they sympathize with the family who has lost her.
So drag yourself through the coals and back again, over and over again. Walk through Hell and introduce yourself to the Devil. Do WHATEVER it takes to get your daughter back.
But maybe you aren’t like the selfless mother who didn’t even think about risking her life for her children. Maybe you are more worried about preserving yourself and that, in and of itself, should be someone you don’t want to be.