Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Tough Love

I’m sure everyone has watched the news coverage on the tornado victims, the devastation they have faced and the obstacles they have to overcome. One story in particular is getting national news and that is the story of the mom who laid on top of her children to protect them and in that, lost her legs but her children walked away without a scratch. Every interview I have watched her on, I feel her selflessness. She does not consider herself brave or a hero, she just considers herself a mother who would put her life on the line so that her children remain safe. She said it was just instinct.

Every time I see their story I think of Justin DiPietro. I have heard so many excuses on why he will not do media interviews: Ayla is getting enough coverage, everyone will twist what he says, he doesn’t want to answer questions and only wants to plead for his daughter, he doesn’t want to play a he said/she said, he is socially awkward, this isn’t about him, it’s about Ayla and so on. The only thing I see with these excuses is self-preservation. The total opposite of the mom who protected her children. The only instinct here is self-preservation.

I’ll even give him the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he is all those things or believes all of those things, maybe he is just young and naïve. But maybe it’s time for some tough love from those people around him. At some point he needs to sink or swim on his own. You can be his support but can no longer be HIS voice, he needs to have his own.

So here is my tough love for Justin:

Be the mother who lost her legs to save her children. I know you are already getting criticism but I have a feeling if it was that mother whose child was kidnapped she would allow herself to be dragged through the coals and back again as many times as it took to get her child back. She would not care about people calling her names and saying she is guilty.

If you are truly innocent and there is a kidnapper out there that has Ayla, why would they feel guilty about keeping her. You don’t care enough to plead for her or beg for her. You said you have to believe someone who wanted a child took her, if you believe that why aren’t you asking for her back, EVERY DAY. You don’t feel you have to appease the general public, well guess what, that kidnapper is part of the general public, they won’t hear your prayers but they will see your face on camera pleading for your daughter. You don’t want to answer questions, make a YouTube video where you control what you say.

You’re worried about what the kidnapper will do if you speak, what will happen if you don’t?

Now is the time to point fingers, now is the time to yell and scream, now is the time to get angry that your daughter has not been found, now is the time to play he said/she said. Who cares if it makes you look like the bad guy, who cares if it makes you someone you don‘t want to be, YOUR daughter is out there with someone she doesn’t know and if it brings her back home so be it.

Ayla may be getting local coverage but that national coverage is dwindling. She is YOUR daughter, it is YOUR responsibility to make sure her name and face stay out there and the best way to do that is to put your face out there. People can pass by just another missing child poster but if they see how much she is loved and wanted they sympathize with that, they sympathize with the family who has lost her.

So drag yourself through the coals and back again, over and over again. Walk through Hell and introduce yourself to the Devil. Do WHATEVER it takes to get your daughter back.

But maybe you aren’t like the selfless mother who didn’t even think about risking her life for her children. Maybe you are more worried about preserving yourself and that, in and of itself, should be someone you don’t want to be.

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    1. I can't imagine that anyone would listen to the advice of the very same people who have been attacking and insulting him annd his family. That isn't the way it works. It is stupid to think that you can hurl a deluge of personal attacks at any person, and then think he will listen to you. Obviously, you have no idea what you are talking about.

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    2. You think he is stupid enough to listen to you Haters. You flatter yourselves.

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    3. If information is what people are looking for, you will need to contact Tristaa and her family.

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    4. Well I seriously hope he's not as STUPID as the rest of his fan club!!!!!! If you are that stupid and ball-less, Justin, and you don't listen to the Ayla Support Group, then you won't be "SMOKIN" anything for about the next 40 years- cause your goose will be cooked ( well-done, burned, spent...)GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!

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    5. ANON 512, So how does it work you piece of shit? You seem to be inferring that Justin won't try and find Ayla to spite the people who have held him accountable for his constant lies and failure to do anything to bring his daughter home? Is this what you are telling me you sack of spunk? Like we all owe Justin an apology before he tries to look for his daughter? GO FUCK YOURSEL RAW you heartless twat.

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    6. You deleted the best post of the night Justice4. These pieces of crap(is that better?)) The absolute gall of ANON is nauseating. TO insinuate that Justin will not look for his daughter to spite the people who have called him out for doing absolutely nothing to find Ayla is the most vile thing I have seen in quite some time. So how does it work ANON? Should we give Justin some drug money so he will fnd the motivation to look for his daughter and get out of his house and the bars and actually act ike he cares if he ever sees her again? Pathetic. Tori you are spinning your wheels if you think a plea to the "softer" side will compel this JD or any DIP to look for Ayla,, They have had 3 months and done nothing but lawyer uo and posture to protect themselves. Sickening. A perfect picture of the deterioration of the American Family.

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    7. Sounds like the Linnells are out again tonight.

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    8. TLLOM is losing members fast. If they don't go away on their own they threaten them annon. apparently. are they having fun!

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    9. The Linnells should be banned from talking in public forums. Their verbal diarreah is showing up everywhere and is just a distraction from the actual case.

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    10. @anon 5:09AM....what kind of threats are we talking here? Im assuming you know personally because Im sure noone on this site would just post random rumors that are unsubstantiated

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    11. Exactly what threats are TLLOM using against people? Must be some pretty nasty tactics to someone to click the "leave group" button on their fb page.

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  2. Do it for Ayla,please speak to the public.

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    1. Are you listening Reynolds family??

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  3. I agree! Beautifully said J4A! Justin : you are a beautiful little girl's father- you were grown up enough to make her- NOW GO TO THE PD and tell them what happened! If there was an accident, you didnt know what to do OR you got angry and didnt know what to do, or somebody else hurt her and asked you to lie for them, or another person took her and are threatening you... SOMEONE WILL HELP YOU IF YOU JUST TELL THE TRUTH! Do you want to just deal with whatever happened, get help, pay the consequences OR DO YOU WANT TO HIDE/ SUFFER FROM THE LABELS THAT WILL FOLLOW YOU / ALWAYS HAVE TO WATCH YOUR BACK AND THEN SOMEDAY OR EVERYDAY - answer to GOD?! Do whats right for Ayla, for your family AND EVEN FOR YOURSELF... Think about yourself, everybody seems to think you can do that, for sure!

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    1. I wish I could take credit for writing it but Truth4Ayla wrote this, she did an amazing job :'-)

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    2. Ya sorry! T4A & J4A I admire you both for all youve done

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  4. Blah Blah Blah!! This is truly getting pathetic.

    Dear Trista,

    Please "man up" and admit what you had done with Ayla.

    Ayla may be getting local coverage but that national coverage is dwindling. She is YOUR daughter, it is YOUR responsibility to make sure her name and face stay out there and the best way to do that is to put your face out there. People can pass by just another missing child poster but if they see how much she is loved and wanted they sympathize with that, they sympathize with the family who has lost her.

    So drag yourself through the coals and back again, over and over again. Walk through Hell and introduce yourself to the Devil. Do WHATEVER it takes to get your daughter back.

    But maybe you aren’t like the selfless mother who didn’t even think about risking her life for her children. Maybe you are more worried about preserving yourself and that, in and of itself, should be someone you don’t want to be.

    Your act won't keep you afloat much longer. They are on to you and will find whoever you have hidden Ayla with soon enough.

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    1. Wow.. really??? No one abducted this baby. Get over it. Why don't you start asking JUSTIN where she is?

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    2. To bad LE doesnt agree,Blah,blah

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    3. Wow! I'm glad that a$$hole is on Justin's team!

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    4. anon 1:01

      YOU ARE TRULY PATHETIC!!!

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    5. All the ones on Justin's "team" are assholes.

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    6. It amazes me that LE has not yet focused on the mother, Trista Reynolds. Trista perfectly fits the FBI profile of a parental abductor. If Trista or someone associated with her did not abduct Ayla, I will eat my hat.

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    7. hope you have a bevy of condiments cuz that hat is gunna be rough to get down

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    8. Trista IS involved. Even if she doesn't know about it yet...it was someone in HER family that took Ayla. Justin's family already had Ayla with them.

      Don't worry Anon 5:08- you won't be eating your hat. All of these other people though, including the blog writers, will be issuing public apologies. It won't be long now...

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  5. Justin Afwwwwwaid of big, bad, mean mommies and grammies with Teddy Bears. Only a true coward would not stand up and speak for his presious little girl.

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    1. Speak English much?

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    2. LMAO Anon 5:23. Apparently it's Anon 1:07's first day....

      hehehehehe

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  6. T4A Very well stated. I can see the heart and feeling you put into this post! If Justin would do the same in pleaing for Ayla, he would have a profound impact on getting Ayla home.

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    1. That is true, only if Trista and her family will listen.

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    2. Anon Trolls, you would think that you could at least make your sactimonious BS grammatically fit with the original statement!

      Read T4A's comments and you can realize that your words don't coincide or have pertinence to the original post either!

      Maybe we are typing to fast for you to understand!

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  7. I would give my life for my child, no questions asked....would you, Justin?

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    1. Sadly, I think we know that he wouldn't, but he may have made his little baby give HER life for HIM.

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    2. It does appear that way. Only a criminal acts like a criminal.

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    3. I would gladly give my life to save one of my kids or grandkids, no hesitation. That's what being a parent or grandparent means.

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    4. You should ask Tori that question as well.

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    5. Why don't you get the fuck off this blog if you hate Tori so bad... Just shut the fuck up and go climb back in that hole you crawled out of...Pooofff!

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    6. Tori, are you a criminal? Why do people keep saying that?

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    7. I am NOT Tori but I know her and she's NOT a criminal. Thats REDICULOUS! I'm sick of people trash talkin her. This blog is about FINDING Ayla not bashing the writer! ENOUGH!!!!

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    8. She's not a criminal? But...I read it online. So, it must be true....right???? Isn't that how this internet-doo-hickey-thingamajig works?? If you read it online, it is the TRUTH. Right?!?

      Anon 6:00pm- this blog is NOT about finding Ayla. This blog is about an ignorant persons' personal vendetta. Get it straight and open your eyes to this disturbing person you are supporting.

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    9. Very good points Anon 9:06am. Just because it was posted in a blog or somewhere on the internet DOES NOT MAKE THINGS TRUE!

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  8. I would too, Justin would you risk your life for your little girl? You have a chance to do that right now by telling the Truth.

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    1. He hasn't got the balls to do anything unless he has a bat in his hand. He looks to his mama to be the man for him.

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  9. Yep. and when mom's not around Justin's got all his wet nurses to hide behind.

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  10. Wow, Tori. You are not the best parent, so to post something like this is almost a slap in the face to your own child.

    Nice, go ahead and delete this comment, because you don't want the truth to be known about YOU.

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    1. I didn't write this, in case you missed it, there are 2 bloggers on this site. And as much as you think you may know, I hate to inform you, you are mistaken. You know nothing about my parenting skills.

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    2. Who has a "missing" kid right now? That's who I want to hear from!

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    3. Wow Anon @2:33, Tori's parenting skills have nothing to do with Ayla being missing. Are Tori's kids missing? Please try to focus on what this blog is about. It's about Ayla. Ayla is the one who is missing.

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    4. Anon 2:33, you have some serious issues. In case you have trouble with your literacy, this blog is called Justice For Ayla, not Let's Ignore Ayla and Bash Tori. Why so vicious? Are the dips supplying you with product and you're afraid you'll lose your source once they're locked up?

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  11. ayla is important tooMarch 7, 2012 at 6:30 PM

    Will we ever know where/what happend to AYLA???? Not only is justin to blame but I think that Maine pd/investigators/fbi/ who ever is working this case needs to put some effort into making justin and his family of liars speech the truth!
    Come on arrest this guy already! Arrest his mom arrest someone who will then start talking! Arrest them plea them out do something! If this was a cops kid that was so called missing we all know that an arrest would of been made withing the first 24/48 hours! Justin and his family know where AYLA is! The police are just as much to blame in my book!!! A few years ago here in manchester NH a on duty officer was shot and killed they had swat in the streets peoples houses where invaded cars searched ect ect. They found the shooter in boston MASS and it took less then 24 hours. Rip to manchester police officer briggs. Point is.... why can't the same effort be put in to finding AYLA ? If AYLA was a cops child she would of been found already. Justin or whoever was in that house did/know what/where AYLA is and a picture never lies!!!!!! This blog is amazing and its the first place I come to for updated info on poor AYLA. people defending justin remember and really think do you want him around your child alone???? I bet not let's pray justin is never around anyones child and let's pray someone will read this and a light bulb will go off and they will go directly into the PD and start talking!!!
    J4A... keep up the good work!!!
    AYLA praying for JUSTICE for you

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    1. If I had a small child I wouldn't let anyone on either side of Ayla's family babysit.

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  12. Prayers for little Ayla!

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  13. To those wanting to learn the identity of the stopthelies blogger, here are clues.
    These were made possible by finding her post prior to Ayla going missing and her starting the lies blog. As far as I know she had nothing to hide then, and expect these to be accurate.

    They are not listed in order of priority, just random as found.

    She mentioned a husband.
    She was born and raised in Texas.
    She visits her Mother every weekend.
    As of Feb 2011 she has a 5 year old son and a daughter that is 13 months old.
    She did an internship with CPS.
    She has flown on Delta, United, and Southwest. The last time was 6-6-2010 to New Jersey.
    Her sister has flown to Israel.
    She upgraded from a Blackberry to an Iphone just before Feb. 2011.
    In her comments on the Baby Joshua case she can not understand how someone with no involvement would create a fake Facebook page and delete comments.
    She uses internet slang on Facebook but she is college educated and can type correctly if need be.
    In Feb. 2011 she was 25 years old.
    Her Mother is a Grandma at age 46 ( not sure if 46 is her age now, or when she became a Grandma).
    She has been in the military and perhaps still is.
    She has posted a picture of her daughter and her nephew on line.
    She thinks 18 months old is a bit early for potty training.
    She can drink 2---12 ounce beers and 2 hours later be perfectly fine to drive again.
    She lived in Killeen, Texas in Oct. 2011 perhaps still does.
    Her daughter is biracial (B &W)
    She has commented on the cases of Darlie Router, Nidal Hassan, Haley Dunn, and Baby Joshua.
    She is not a betting person but would bet her house the parents of Baby Joshua are not involved. She says the guilty person in Baby Joshua’s case has not had any scrutiny in the media and makes her po’ed that Nancy Grace would cover Courtney Roberts, but never once mention the name of “family friend” who left baby Joshua’s house that night and refused to take a poly.

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    1. Why po'ed about Nancy Grace 'covering' CR?

      Seems like more people should question the girlfriend who was at the Dip house! She has more brains (just ask her) than the rest put together, the best motive, AND the resources (family$/ drug connections)to pull off a disappearing magic trick like this!

      I hope the FBI has looked at EVERYTHING that woman's done since Thanksgiving '11!

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    2. Don't count on that info on the blogger. She's been doing this for years and has fake ips and profiles all over the internet.

      J4A watch out! Are you sure she didn't slip in the closed room with you? As Tim Crew? That's a famous trick of hers. And she loves closed rooms.

      Ask her about sending in a team to save Madalaine McCann. Or about the false tips in the Kyron Horman case. And the falsely accused in the Lisa Irwin case. Oh, and her dear murdered brother. Which is a crock of shit!

      Check again. Go back further. Cali. TJM. Or could be her sidekicks.

      Did you have the initials BYC? I know who that is.

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  14. Sounds like the "Girl with a Notebook" blogger. That writer uses a pseudonym (VS)?

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    1. yes it does

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    2. Val isn't her real name

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    3. Right not her real name

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    4. Right, she writes in one of her blogs that the name she uses (VS) is a pseudo.

      A lot of other matches from the list (military, kids ages, Texas born and raised, ties to Jersey). And she is facebook friends with Scarry. Scarry is an admin at "Lies", and a frequent contribute. And, lol, she posts and then uses a new name or Anon to agree with herself (psycho perv-brain).

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    5. Why are Justins supporters trying so hard to change our minds.Why not bug LE.Put pressure on them ,go to the media.If you dont believe LE.Why waste time arguing on blogs,it doesnt change anyones mind.Keep telling us to post flyers,Well When dad goes on tv ,Then I'll go post some flyers for you.

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  15. I asked the Morning Sentinel about Justins interview ,They said they are holding the interview because it is 1,700 words,with great reader interest,its a better fit for their Sunday paper.It will be published on March 11th.

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    1. Sounds like a manifesto.

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    2. Still cant show his face on tv,must be afraid of the body language experts.

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    3. You didn't happen to ask if they did some real reporting and asked tough questions or did they just quote whatever Justin wants to say. Being an out-of-stater now, it is amazing to see the difference from what I thought tough news was when I was a kid in ME to what I see as tough news in many parts of the US. The ME reporters have really taken a back seat to many other states from my own personal observations.

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    4. Have they asked Trista the tough questions? You don't even know where she was on the night Ayla vanished.

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    5. LE knows thats what matters.I trust LE more than I do you.Sorry

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  16. GUILTY PEOPLE HIDE behind phones and give interviews for papers with no facetime. There is a very specific reason. They SHOW their guilt. He has hidden like a scared girl while his daughter is either laying in the cold somehwere or being held captive(not bloody likely). I feel it was the smartest thing JD has done. I am surprised his lawyer EVER let him speak on camera. Besides being barely literate, Justin wreaked of guilt and of someone who had no love at all for his missing daughter. He looked every bit the absentee father he had been for most of Ayla's life.

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  17. Anonymous, do you know for sure that Justin didn't meet with the reporter face to face and if so, how do you know this?

    If its true, I hope the reporter who did his story wrote that in the article.

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  18. anon 7:56 welcome to the jury pool

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  19. I know for SURE that he renegged on his own request for Nancy Grace to come and conduct a face to face interview. Why would an innocent, grieving, father not take the opportunity to reach out to such a large audience? He got cold feet when they came knocking and hid, and he hasn't resurfaced since. Does this stike you odd? LEt me guess, the abductors called him and told him not to do the interview or they would hurt Ayla right? I guess it s possible that drug dealers took Ayla as collateral for drugs that had been fronted to a certain lady(using term VERY loosely) in Portland. I guess Aliens could have taken Ayla, I mean it is possible right> lke all the other theories the "spinsterrs" at team D would have you consider, they just wreak of pure conjecture. The only substantial facts support a pattern of deceit from Dip and his family as well as Miss(again, very loosely) Roberts.

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  20. j4a and t4a, if you are keeping the personal attack posts and offensive posts up because you don't want to censor people please rethink that. I am being selfish. I would like to read your blogs and the responses without having to waste my time on people whose maturity level is stunted. I am here because I find your blog to be intelligent and informative. Please, for Ayla's sake, delete the posts that are diversions. These posters are wasting time we could be using to help find answers to bringing Ayla home. Thank you. Ayla 1st

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    1. We get 100's of comments a day and I usually just leave them there instead of taking an hour to delete them, I think they just make the person who writes them look more pathetic. I will try to be more vigilant and delete them when I see them. I also worry that when I delete them, they just come back and post 10 more times. I think they feel like they have accomplished something when I leave them ;)

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    2. Sorry, I dont want to give you more work. You spend enough time, don't worry about deleting them for my sake. I never thought of leaving one up to keep from getting spammed. I laughed when I read it though because it reminded me of one of the techniques used to calm a child who has self control issues.

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    3. I laughed out loud reading this, that is EXACTLY how it feels. Let them get it off their chest so they move on haha

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  21. J4A and t4A. Know this. For every request for deleted posts, someone is getting defensive. The supporters of blglies hate any opinion based on facts that sheds their hero ina bad light. It is so esy to do this because IMO, Justin is guilty. You are doing a great job.

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  22. I feel that some of the comments are rude and offensive BUT, it just proves how ignorant and hostile the groupies are. Why give them the satisfaction to be able to say whatever rude thing comes to their mind, knowing people will see it, but then it will be deleted? They should be ashamed of themselves every time they read their own comments.

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  23. I am compelled to go throw up now.

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  24. If Ayla was kidnapped I honestly don't think it would matter 1 iota how many pleas Justin makes to the person who took her.
    IMO if he did do an interview now it wouldn't help Ayla. All the attention would be on him, ...although that seems to be the case anyway, so........

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  25. I have to love how you can all say that without a doubt Justin is guilty. No one ever wants to look at Trista's side of the family. What makes her so perfect in all of this opposed to Justin? She hasn't exactly had the best life either. Ayla was in Justin's care, yes. But just assume for a minute that he didn't do anything to her. That she truly is missing. Obviously since she was already in his care, Justin's family wouldn't have kidnapped her. So why not look to the other side of the family who wanted her as well. If Ayla had been with Trista when she went missing would you be after her? Or would you still be after Justin because he's the father?

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    1. Where in this post did I state he was guilty of anything other than not fighting and pleading for his daughter? Did I mention Trista at all or that she is perfect? And if Ayla was in Trista's care when she went missing, there was blood in her basement, and she was in hiding, then yes, I would "be after her".

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