I have two kids and like most kids, they argue every so often. When they argue and can’t settle it between themselves, I sit them down and I ask them each what their story is to the argument. When they have stories that slightly resemble each other, it is easy to figure out the truth. When one story is totally different than the other, it shows that one of them is lying, usually the guiltier one or the one who stands to get into more trouble.
Between Ayla’s parents we get two different stories about when Justin learned he had a daughter.
We first learned Justin only found out that Ayla was his daughter when she was 7 months old by Angela Harry on her This Little Light of Maine blog. This has never come straight from Justin’s mouth nor have I heard him confirm it, pretty much par for the course.
Trista says she told Justin when she found out she was pregnant that the baby was his and he asked her to get an abortion. There is a little more to that story according to Trista’s best friend Amanda Benner.
BENNER: When Trista first got pregnant she was actually staying with me. She had gone to see Justin and told him she was having a baby, and that it was his. He denied it. They ended up having to get a DNA test through DHS, which proved he was the father of Ayla. And then he continued on having nothing to do with her.
He was at one point going to go and sign his rights over to her. He wanted absolutely nothing to do with this child. And it took until the point that Trista was like, fine, if you’re not going to be there for her, and you want nothing to do with my daughter who you created, this amazing little girl, then, you know what, fine, sign your rights over. And as soon as she said that.
BENNER: I don’t know. A couple months before she was going to go into rehab, he started all of a sudden wanting to have something to do with Ayla, for what reason I have no idea. He would take her, you know, once in a while for a couple hours during the day and would return her back to Trista. She didn’t even have her for any amount of time until all of that had happened.
On Trista’s MySpace 2 years ago she wrote to Amanda Benner that she was excited to be moving in with her. So that leaves no doubt in my mind that Amanda is telling the truth about Trista living with her since before Ayla was born.
We also have a more involved story from Trista’s side, whereas from Justin’s side the only thing said is he only found out HE is Ayla’s father when she was 7 months old.
Let’s start with the first fact they agree on, Trista and Justin had a one night stand. If birth control was used it obviously failed, if it wasn’t, then Justin very well knew the baby could have been his. The second fact is that a paternity test was done when Ayla was 7 months old that proved Justin is her father.
Now you have to figure out if Justin is lying by omission or if Trista and Amanda are just flat out lying. Or if Justin is telling a partial truth while Trista and Amanda are telling the truth.
Now me personally, I’m going with Trista and Amanda’s version of events. Why? I’ve seen this situation happen many times. Girl and boy have a one night stand, girl finds out she is pregnant, girl tells boy and boy goes running for the hills.
Justin was a 22-year-old kid when he found out Trista was pregnant from their one night stand. He had no relationship with her; no feelings for her. He was young, not ready for responsibilities. So he would do what most guys would do in his situation and ask her to get an abortion. When she said no, he denied the baby was his and pretended he knew nothing about it.
Let's look at another view of Justin’s claim of ONLY finding out when Ayla was 7 months old. The version that is already floating around is that Trista only filed with DHHS to determine paternity because her fiancé, Raymond Fortier, was arrested for arson and she needed to get TANF. Well what if she was already receiving TANF? If she is already receiving TANF, once Ayla was born she must tell DHHS who she thinks the father is. Then said potential dad gets served with papers to appear in court. If he contests that he is the dad, the judge orders him to take a paternity test. Mom and baby get a DNA swab, potential dad gets a DNA swab. Results come back a week later that say potential dad is, in fact, dad. Dad gets sent a new date to appear in court. They meet at court and child support is set up. This whole process can take quite a few months, like let’s say, 7.