A double standard, thus, can be described as a sort of biased, morally unfair suspension (toward a certain group) of the principle that all are equal in their freedoms. Such double standards are seen as unjustified because they violate a basic maxim of modern legal jurisprudence: that all parties should stand equal before the law. Double standards also violate the principle of justice known as impartiality, which is based on the assumption that the same standards should be applied to all people, without regard to subjective bias or favoritism based on social class, rank, ethnicity, gender, religion, sexual orientation, age or other distinctions. A double standard violates this principle by holding different people accountable according to different standards. The phrase "life is not fair" may be invoked in order to mollify concerns over double standards.
There is a distinction to be made between double standards and hypocrisy, which implies the stated or presumed acceptance of a single standard a person claims to hold himself or herself accountable to, but which, in practice, may be disregarded. Being hypocritical to the double-standard is then a positive example of hypocrisy as well
I read different blogs and comments from the readers and really am amazed at some of the people who point the finger at Trista and what their reasons for suspecting her in Ayla's disappearance are. They tell us that we are demonizing Justin just to make it easier to pin the blame on him. There is no evidence to support he did anything and so on and so forth. We are evil, heartless and vile but yet they attack Trista and speculate and theorize with even less fact to back their accusations up. We are accused of basing assumptions on hearsay but what are they doing? It is a double standard. It is okay for people to bash Trista under the guise that they believe Ayla is alive but if we speculate that it does not appear that Ayla is still alive and logically come to the conclusion that Justin is responsible and voice that belief we are wrong. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, there are many unanswered questions still but the answers to some of the questions are available. Trista and her stepfather, Jeff Hanson have opened themselves up to questions. They have provided answers to some of those questions that have been floating around out there and now people who refuse to believe Justin is guilty are not accepting the answers to those questions but instead try to discredit the messenger. However when people who choose not to believe some of Justin's answers based on the following:
1. He is not answering the questions himself, he is having others speak for him.
2. LE has stated on more than one occasion that Justin, Elisha, and Courtney are not telling the truth about what happened the night Ayla disappeared.
3. LE believe foul play is involved
We are told we are making things up to make our theories fit together and to make Justin out to be the bad guy. You can't have it both ways. It is not okay to hold one group to certain standards but not follow them yourself. I didn't expose TTLOM because they support Justin. Good for Justin that he has a small group of people that support him. I exposed them because they along with another blog, JSTL, do the same exact things that we are doing but they don't see that. They bring up things that are not relevant to Ayla's disappearance and claim they are doing it because EVERY one involved needs to be scrutinized, but when I post possible scenarios involving Elisha, Lance or Phoebe I am personally attacked and told I am talking about things that are irrelevant.
Couldn't that be said for those attacking Trista as well?
Another double standard, Women are born knowing how to raise a child? Do they have an instruction manual they are given when they hit puberty? New parents, whether the father or the mother, learn as they go or get instruction from other parents and medical professionals on what to expect.
Where has it ever been stated that Trista was in a homeless or battered women's shelter?
Folks demonize Trista in order to make Justin appear innocent but if you take away all of the malicious, false, concocted allegations, underneath she is just a young mother who has made mistakes that is trying to rectify them for the sake of her children whom she clearly loves by the smiles on their faces and their vibrant personalities. She is devastated over the loss of her daughter and is doing all she can to find her and keep her name out there.
Trista has done nothing wrong except trying to provide a better life for her children and trusting that Ayla's father would love and cherish her as Trista did. I suspect Ayla was severly injured by a father who had no patience and was frustrated with an unhappy toddler who desperately missed her mother and was acting out. The blood is not a red herring and shows that Ayla sustained a serious injury while in the custody of her father and her father still tries to minimize the fact that her blood was spilled in his bedroom, by his bed on his watch. Just as a motel was not a proper environment for a toddler, a basement that so many people have reported hurting themselves to the point of drawing blood and breaking bones in, is definitely not a suitable environment for a toddler.
Another double standard, Justin also surrounds himself with criminals, one being his own brother and his mother also has an issue with substance abuse and his brother freely admits to using drugs for recreational purposes. Justin's girlfriend's apartment was raided and a massive amount of drugs were found in her home. She was there the night Ayla disappeared.
In my view, the answers to this mystery lie with the maternal side of the family and their friends. LE needs to start looking there. I would think that LE has already looked into Trista and apparently does not feel she has Ayla or they would have said she was not being truthful with them and certainly would not have praised her efforts in a press release.
Why is it that when Trista announced that she was planning a birthday vigil in Portland for Ayla's birthday last month that she was called disgusting and vile for planning something a month in advance and that she obviously knew that Ayla would not be home for her birthday?
Why is not disgusting that on www.thislittlelightofmaine.ORG that they are planning the FIRST Ayla Bell Run for May 12th, over a month away? Why is it not vile that not only are they planning it over a month away but have insinuated there will be more Runs to follow by labelling it a "first" Ayla Bell Run and not The Ayla Bell Run? Why is it not disgusting that they have set up a store to sell business cards, mini flyers and other Ayla merchandise to spread awareness? Where does the money go to? Why is a site backed by her father SELLING merchandise when complete strangers are giving away these same things for FREE to keep awareness up for Ayla. Why is it not vile that there is not one mention of Trista or her maternal family on that site and only mention of her poor father? I also caution anyone who is considering to purchase anything from www.thislittlelightofmaine.org to find out if they are an actual non-profit organization, anyone can buy a .org domain online. I would hate to see someone's hard earned money go to something or someone other than who you had intended it to go to.
I have no issues with people that want to believe Justin is innocent, I certainly have no issue with anyone who wishes to believe that Ayla is still alive and really was abducted by someone even people who believe Trista abducted Ayla. The greatest end to this saga would be that Ayla is alive and well and is returned home to her mommy and her brother. No one wishes for anything else but there are facts to contend with and many of us have prepared ourselves for the worst while still hoping for the best. I do have issue with people who hold others to a double standard and in doing so are being hypocritical. I also have an issue with people who refuse to accept the facts, the real cold, hard facts minus all of the rumors and speculation.
Fact: Justin purchased a life insurance policy on Ayla only weeks before she was reported missing.
Fact: Ayla's blood was spilled in Justin's bedroom, Justin has minimized the importance of the blood and told Trista "Not to worry about it"
Fact: Justin waited two weeks before issuing a statement to the media and in that first statement said he did not know what happened to Ayla, he also said he did not know who took her.
Fact: Justin has refused interviews and put a no trespassing sign on his home, he has been in seclusion in Winslow. The most recent interview he did, he made one or two statements. Heidi and Darrell Tudela carried the majority of the interview.
Fact: Police have stated on more than one occasion that the three people in the house that night are not telling the truth.
Fact: Phoebe and Elisha have retained their own attorney and that attorney is not representing Justin
Fact: Police have collected over one hundred pieces of evidence from the home and not one piece of evidence coincides with Justin, Elisha, and Courtney's versions of events.
Fact: Phoebe lied to reporters by leading them to believe she was home the night Ayla disappeared.
Fact: Justin claims he was worried someone was going to take Ayla but yet left her alone to sleep in a room by herself while he, Courtney, and Ayden slept in the basement bedroom, according to Selena Johnson she claims she has slept down there and it is impossible to hear anything because of the loud furnance, they did not own a baby monitor. It was highly unlikely Justin would be able to hear Ayla while he was in the basement.
Fact: Ayla was injured while in Justin's care on more than one occasion. Bruises, pulled leg muscle, broken arm, and whatever injury caused her blood to be spilled in his basement. Enough blood that it had to be cleaned up and was only detected with the use of Luminal.
Fact: Justin claimed to have smoked his polygraph test but was not made aware of the results although he reported to friends that he failed miserably, LE also stated that Justin did know the results of his polygraph test and they were not sure why he was claiming he did not know the results.
Fact: Ayla went missing while Justin was in physical custody of her and it was his sole responsibility to keep her safe, to care for her, and to protect her.
Fact: Trista reported to a doctor her concerns that Ayla may possibly have been abused while in her father's care
Fact: Trista was supposed to retain physical custody of Ayla upon completion of a 10 day rehab, Justin reneged on his part of the agreement.
Fact: Trista filed for Parental Rights and Responsibilities two days before Ayla was reported missing
Fact: Trista received text messages from Justin claiming he was afraid someone would take Ayla
Fact: Trista was unable to take a polygraph test due to a medical condition, LE stated they were satisfied with her test and she did not have to retake it
Fact: Trista has done numerous interviews and has done all she can to keep Ayla's name out there knowing she would be put under attack for her own indiscretions. She faced the scrutiny head on for the sake of Ayla. LE has praised her efforts.
Fact: Trista has publicly begged Justin to work with her to find Ayla
Fact: Trista is accessible to LE and to the public and has answered any questions that she can to help find out the truth about what happened to her daughter.
People are going to continue to believe what they believe. I am smart enough to know that no matter how many times I say the same thing or others who feel the same way I do, say the same things over and over, people are still going to continue to hold fast to their own theories about what happened. I can respectfully agree to disagree and I know better than to join in any discussion on pages and blogs where my theories are not the accepted version of events although I would love for someone to be able to have an intelligent discussion/debate with someone that can back up their theories that this was a custody issue and Trista took her with facts that are relevant and not rumors or hearsay. I would love for Justin to come online and start a blog and answer some of the questions only he can answer and not rely on someone else to always speak for him. If Justin is telling the truth and decided to be forthcoming, maybe people wouldn't have such a negative opinion of him. I would love for someone to discuss the actual facts as a whole picture and not explain away each individual piece of evidence. I think for now we can all agree on one thing however and that is that Ayla Reynolds is missing and no one knows what really happened to her. I can maintain my belief that until the people that were in the house that night start telling the truth, we aren't going to get the full story and anyone who thinks otherwise can maintain theirs that until LE investigates Trista we will not get the full story. Unless LE is completely incompetent, I am pretty sure they have already investigated Trista though but of course this is all just my opinion.
Anyone with information leading to the whereabouts of Ayla Reynolds is asked to call MSP at 624-7076. There is still a $30,000 reward that is unclaimed.
*I wanted to add a link to another article by Boo Kat on her blog she shares with Shannie. They touched on this issue as well and in a way only they can, they don't sugarcoat for the masses so if you are easily offended, you may want to skip it but I definitely think their site is worth a read.